Cheating Boyfriend

[DitsyDemi99]

been together with my man 5 years. Moved in together last year. A few months after moving in I found out he’d been having an affair with his boss from work. He’s admitted to everything and told me what he says is the truth. I can’t understand why it’s happened, we were happy. He says he was unsure about moving in and acted out. Anyone else dealt with this? Should I try to work through it?

Nah... Move out, leave him and move on.

LTB

I personally would not be able to move past cheating. No matter how much I love the person, what I believe is right comes before that. The damage caused could never be undone, whatever the other person does after that to make up for it, atone for it, etc. Attempting to fix, mend and make it work, I know some people do that...but undoing it impossible. At the end of the day, cheating is always a choice, and people are soooo sorry and cry (after being caught), and I honestly can't stand it when people try to rationalise it by "it was just a mistake" or what your man is trying to do - "acting out because he was unsure about moving in together". It is just so pitiful when people try to contextualise it by coming up with a reason to minimise it. No. It was a choice, nobody put a gun to their heads. Call it what it is...

It is up to you if you can put up with it, or move past. I would certainly move on from a cheating partner. No matter how serious the relationship is (clearly not the same level from both parties)

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LTB

Huh. Acted out. So he doesn't see this as a relationship killing huge betrayal. That suggests you should leave him. It's huge that you built this whole relationship with him, and then he went off and slept with someone else. Don't let him suggest it isn't huge.

If he's done it to you once, and he's not devastated that it happened, he'll do it again. But this is 2026, so I dunno, I would break up but these days people move to open relationships; maybe you want to try that? Or just break up with him. My advice would be to break up.

You (presumably) don't have children, don't own property together, and aren't married. There's nothing to save. He broke the only thing you actually had, your relationship and trust.

If he'll cheat when you believe your relationship is happy then it doesn't bode well what he'll do when things get tough. I'd get out now.

I have friends who are happily back together after affairs, also some that tried but couldn’t get past it.

He says he was unsure about moving in and acted out.

Right, so he was unsure about moving in together so he had an affair - not even just a ONS - to what, gain clarity? What happens when the next big decision comes along? Marriage - "not sure about this... better go fuck someone else". Babies - "not sure about this... better go fuck someone else".

Leave him. Even if he never cheats again - though his reason for doing so the first time suggests he will - you'll always be wondering what he's up to.