Noise and men

[nothingcangowrongnow]

I’m very much sexually unaware and have not experienced many men. My DH was absolutely awful, hated intimacy and avoided sex. If we ever had sex it was with the light off and very vanilla. Never oral. But the worst thing was he never kissed me during sex or made noise. I recently started a new relationship and I cannot believe how much different it is to be with someone with passion who shows what they are feeling. My sex esteem has grown so much and I just feel so much happier generally. I just needed to share because if anyone is with the wrong person sexually it can really destroy you.

I agree, say no to Charlie Chaplins.

You’re so right, there’s nothing better than seeing and hearing your partner enjoying themselves with you. Especially when reaching climax. Enjoy your new sex life!

It goes the other direction as well, my ex wife was very quiet and reserved during sex and we were hardly ever intimate

have a new partner now who is the complete opposite and the sex is amazing

Speaking as someone whose main drive is seeing/hearing/feeling that my wife is enjoying herself and what I am doing, I can definitely get behind this. At the moment, with having young kids sleeping in their own rooms, I am sometimes having to be shushed. Not in an aggressive, moodkiller way... just a "love it, but please let's try not waking the kids" way :)
I certainly enjoy showing how passionate I feel, and get all the enjoyment in the world if I get it from my partner, too.

I was in a relationship which was abusive so sex was awful as I avoided it and then when it did happen I would cry. I didn’t show it if I enjoyed it as I just didn’t show any emotion.
I’ve had a few partners since then and have started to become more confident in showing my enjoyment as I’m learning than this is ok and that men like it. I DTD with my new guy last night and he absolutely loved seeing my pleasure. I also got lots out of seeing how much he enjoyed it when I gave him a blow job and a hand job and loved it when he told me what felt good.

I’ve never had someone say my name with passion before or tell me they love me during sex. I just wish I’d met him sooner. Whatever happens, it’s wiped out decades of trauma in a sexless marriage being made to feel guilty for having desires

Essentially, I suppose I’m saying good sex can be really emotionally healing. There was me thinking it might just be a good shag but he’s transformed me.