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[CestLaVieYouSee]

Hi all, sorry for the vague title. For Christmas I always get my other half a few toys and lingerie from love honey, boux ave ect. It has always been toys though like vibrators.

This year along with a few new toys, I got her some fluffy handcuffs and a blindfold, but was not sure how she would take this, but her words were ‘ohhh I can get down with this! thank you ;)

Advice please, would you think handcuffs and a blindfold still very ‘vanilla’ and run of the mill? or due to the excited reaction, point to maybe we could take it up a notch on the kinky side?

I know people will say talk to her, but she won’t let things drop if it isn’t to her thinking and over think, so there is a risk if I suggest further ‘kinky things’ and she doesn’t like that, she will over think that is all I want in bed now and will cause a potential issue which wouldn’t be my intention!

Thanks all.

Regardless of the consensus here, here response was positive. You need to initiate and, with a saucy Carry On wink, ask whether the pink cuffs will be joining you.

Only then will you know whether this has opened a door.

I’d say the reaction is definitely positive. Give them a whirl and if it goes down well maybe casually mention something else you could try that’s on a similar par to handcuffs, or to use alongside handcuffs x

You've only just introduced this so I'd give it a decent amount of time before you introduce anything else. I guess it also depends on your next step - I wouldn't be moving on from here to pegging! Maybe get one of those games where you have sexy questions about what you like or like the idea of - don't know the name of any but I'm sure they exist!

I can only speak for myself. I am very much into kink and if someone presented me with fluffy handcuffs, I'd find them quite silly and disappointing. So, on the basis of her excited reaction, I suggest you go with vanilla-adjacent option for now and play it by ear.

Respect for your high competence here, but I took from the OP that this was a first foray. My vote is still that he's pushed a little on an open door rather than disappointed with tameness. Back when you were starting would this have been a good initial move?

I was suggesting that he uses handcuffs as she seems to be up for that but that's, perhaps, where he sticks to for now until it feels right to be introducing "other ideas". Hence my vanilla-adjacent recommendation. Vanilla sex with a sprinkling of fluffy handcuffs. As another commenter mentioned, don't take it as an "all systems go" for pegging and get all excited.

I agree. Sorry, I failed to split your comment in two about your own experience vs. your recommendation. Apologies.

She text you that rather than said it f2f? I think just have a conversation about them irl and see what she would like to do with them?

I’m another kinky lady who would be…disappointed with pink, fluffy, much-too-easily-broken handcuffs, but if you’d been buying me Christmas gifts over multiple years, you’d be well aware of the fact!

You should be able to communicate clearly without fearing shame though, and that becomes more important when things get kinky, not less. Regardless of how adventurous either of you want to be you need to sort that out before going any further.

You are at level 1 of a field that has many many levels that end up at extreme torture, retraint and degregation. Those of us that have any interest in the field have two limits. The first is what we would get excited by and enjoy and the second it what we would do to make our other half happy. These can be the same but rarely. Discussion, openess and agreement without pressure is vital. I find its also a lot of fun. Looking online at videos and products to see what you like as a couple then the planning and anticipation. Over the years we have crept up to moderate levels of kink but there are things we will never do and that is fine as we talk and find lots we both want to do. So for you its a case of an honest discussion being needed and one when its not play time! Say you want to know what her interests and limits are and want to share yours so you can plan things you are both comfortable with and excited by. Then start talking about basic stuff, then add in a bit more and a bit more until one of you says 'eh not for me' and you have your play level. You can revise up or down at any time in future. Have fun.