A question for the women

[Jasonp86]

Hey, a bit of a strange one.. males also feel free to answer.. the past two partners I’ve had have almost seemed disgusted by the amount I ejaculate when I finish, obviously if it’s piv then it’s fine but a couple of times I finished on them by request and produced a lot of semen and they’ve seemed shocked and I felt as if they were disgusted, making me really uncomfortable.

what are your thoughts on semen? Do you mind it in a larger quantity and enjoy it? or do you prefer to just have piv with less mess and not know?

What is a normal volume of semen?
Normal is different for everyone, but on average, you release between 1.25 to 5 millilitres of semen when you ejaculate.
This is around a quarter of a teaspoon to one teaspoon. That might come as a surprise if you’re comparing that to what you see in porn.

So on that scientific fact your previous partners probably think you're a freak.

It just is what it is it. It's neither a turn on or turn off. It's a mild inconvenience having to clean up after, both myself and the bedsheets but not enough to really be bothered about.

Thank you for your replies, hopefully its just me being conscious for no reason.
it’s just the consecutive reactions that made me think maybe its not such a good thing, although it had seemed it with previous partners, they quite enjoyed it and were complimentary over it

If they were disgusted, then that's on them. Unless it was particularly smelly, I don't see how the quantity matters. It's not something you can control anyway!

Thank you, I’ve never had comments or noticed any foul smells, I think it was more the mess it had made.. one comment was just urgh it’s everywhere and then I cleaned her and the bed to try and redeem the situation but now I’m conscious that it’s a problem

Sex is messy. If you know it’s going to go everywhere put a towel down first? For me it’s all great fun (as long as I don’t have to strip the bed! But that can be either of our fault!)

To be honest I’ve only been with two people after a very long and boring marriage, I was living very unhealthily during and have since improved my diet, my physical exercise and to be honest it took me by surprise as well but I felt almost proud by what I had produced but I didn’t get the same reaction from my partners.
i feel a bit embarrassed about approaching the situation of having to put a towel down if i go with someone else, it might be an instant turn off for them and stop things before it begins.

But thank you for your reply I do appreciate it

If you’re talking first time sex and you feel embarrassed just keep the condom on? After that I see no reason to feel embarrassed about needing a towel. Lots of women do too! Pretty standard if no condom imho

Why not explain what happens before you do the deed, that way they are prepared and you can then both mitigate the spillage using a mutually agreed & preferred method.

I feel a bit embarrassed by explaining myself first, I’m quite new to it all, I was with the same woman for 20 years and then the last two encounters haven’t been positive experiences for me so explaining myself and making out I’m abnormal or what it feels like seems a bit difficult

the subject of a preferred method is probably the best option though and makes perfect sense, it’s just gaining the confidence to approach the subject

Communication is key here, for the both of you 💦

I know.. I think I’m the problem, with my ex I found it a massive turn on and so did she when I’d finish on her and i would have loved to have produced like I do now for her and I’m sure she would have loved it too. So these past two
experiences have really knocked me and confused me almost, I completely get it’s not everyone’s cup of tea and I understand that it is messy and the shame I felt i instantly cleaned one partner up to try and fix the situation and stop her being upset or feel disgusted and have cut ties because I don’t want to feel abnormal or not be able to do what I enjoy but now I feel like I never will because of confidence and if go as far to say almost traumatic experiences of it now

Women like different things. You can’t change that. Maybe a pre sex wank will help with volume? But really you just need to find someone you are sexually compatible with. And not take it personally if someone isn’t

I think the sexually compatible thing is 100% what I need, I enjoy finishing on someone or then seeing what they’ve achieved by pleasuring me and although I enjoy to finish inside someone as well I wouldn’t be 100% satisfied in my relationship if it wasn’t a mixture.
I just hope I can build my self up to get back at it and find someone like minded and enjoys me

I wish my DH would finish on me, I wouldn’t mind the quantity. In fact the more the better.

I’ve been with men who’ve wanted to finish on me and I’ve never really noticed or compared the amount.
The only downside for me is the mess — if there’s no towel it just means changing the sheets and having a shower. It’s more of a faff than anything else, not disgust.
Maybe next time it’s worth suggesting having a towel to hand for a quick clean-up and minimal mess. I certainly wouldn’t be put off by a towel being mentioned.

I like it, so wouldn’t mind at all, wherever it goes (just not my face or hair 😆).

I used to semen alot, but as i got older it went down in essence. The man feeling lasts a few seconds, but the woman can do a marathon. I suppose you might have to get used to it. I am glad you are happy though.

I really wouldn't worry about it! If shes worth it she will accept you for who you are. I think you're reading way too much into this as I hardly expect you're producing cup fulls of the stuff!
Sex is messy but should be fun too. Woman can add to lots of wet mess too depending on how stimulated they are.
If you havent ejaculated for a while there tends to be more volume so if you're really that conscious about it, maybe go solo a couple of days before you know sex might be on the cards.

To be honest I really like it when DH has very full balls and there's loads of mess. Everyone is different I suppose.

Looks like two main groups here, those that find it messy and those that enjoy the mess. OP you need to find someone who wants the mess, I guess.

I’m reminded of a post on here many moons ago with posters saying their H had to finish in a tissue etc and one memorable reply that said “it’s spunk, not bin juice”.

I’m sorry that your recent encounters have made you self conscious OP. There are plenty women who aren’t weird about semen but you may find that they’re more accepting of it once you’re in a long term relationship (if that’s what you want) rather than casual encounters.

Had you fully satisfied them before it happened? Just wondering if their disgust may have been at the timing rather than the amount?

Thank you all for your replies, definitely made me feel a bit more confident and not abnormal, I think just the two consecutive encounters made me think way to much into it.
I love finishing on someone and I’m more than happy to clean them up after, and to be honest I’m quite impressed and happy with the amount I’m producing recently so I think il just continue my quest to find someone else who will enjoy it

I don’t think the timing was a problem, I’m quite lucky that I can control myself quite well and last well, I’ve always enjoyed long passionate and fun session. unless they hadn’t actually finished when they said they were finishing (which I hope not!!)