Do I Say Yes??

[Mumof3911]

My husband and I have a very active sex life, and we’ve always been open with each other about what we enjoy and our fantasies.

We’ve had a threesome in the past, and he’s since suggested the idea of me having a solo experience. I won’t lie, I really love the idea.

Have any other couples explored this, and how did it go for you?

How did you navigate boundaries and communication beforehand?
Did it bring you closer, or were there any unexpected challenges afterward?
Were there rules or expectations that helped make it a positive experience?
And would you do it again, or change anything if you could?

How would you feel about him having a 'solo experience'? That may be part of his motivation for suggesting you do.

I’ve been open with him I’m happy for him too. However he has rebuffed the idea. And made it clear it’s more about seeing me with someone else.

He also doesn’t get a lot of spare time.

No idea on this as it's not within my comfort area, but... why don't you both plan simultaneous "solo" forays and then report back to each other for a (pardon the pun) debrief on how it was for you as individuals & also as a couple.

Ahh your reply above has scuppered my idea.

If he "wants to see you with someone else" surely that's not solo and the instead he wants to voyeur, no?

Ye not actually see. I should been more clear. Basically wants me to set something up then we reconnect after and hear all about it lol!!

So not a cuckold type of experience. You meet a guy have a sex session and then relay the details to your OH afterwards. presumably whilst wanking him off then?

Been there a few times…… (I’m M)
Chat clearly about boundaries (if you want any, what are they?) Sounds from your initial post, that you like the idea, and he obviously gets turned on by hearing all about your encounter ( if he’s not actually there enjoying watching.) There can be lots of concerns, but also lots of fun aspects too … it honestly depends on how genuinely open and honest you both are and how secure your relationship is.
One lovely aspect is the “reclaim” sex after….for me, this was always intense….really basic male drive, “reclaiming my woman!” …. She loved it.
Don't hold back on the honesty beforehand, and you’ll know what’s right for you two.

Understand your sentiment to the original poster here but he suggested this to his wife not the other way around. So why should she entertain that idea, it’s his fantasy not hers.

Cuckolding is a common male fantasy, reality is different so maybe try a bit of lead up first?
Take him out maybe find a fit looking guy, maybe flirt with someone and say “he’s nice how would you feel about him being my lover and occasional boyfriend ?” Gauge his reaction, enthusiasm?
I feel you’ll soon get to know if he’s prepared for the reality.
Ive known women in long term relationships successfully negotiate the boyfriend experience
You can enjoy this

Going against the grain here but I think you are inviting lust, jealousy, the dynamics of your relationship and desire for another into your relationship. You will not know the outcome of sleeping with another man until it happens. I think there’s a difference between double penetration with a toy and a penis vs 2 penis’s. What if you fall for the 3rd wheel? Don’t get me wrong, your sex life sounds amazing and I would just concentrate on that.,

Yes he suggested but as mentioned we have a very healthy sex life and openly talk about fantasies etc and have enjoyed similar before but as a group. So it’s not entirely new and of course I like the idea and would enjoy it else I wouldn’t even consider it.

Would I enjoy sex with another man. Yes absolutely as I know it would be enjoyable for us both. We have discussed it the last few days and set some boundaries and discussed safety etc and decided we will try it if we can find someone genuine.

Ye absolutely agree with that. I have said i would enjoy it too and I think that’s why the conversation has gone from fantasy to want it to become reality.

I just want to ensure he gets enjoyment from it too. And I think the reconnecting after is part of that.

Ye no completely understand it’s not everyone’s thing and both have to be into it for it to work. The communication has been constant and important thing for us.

We have agreed if we go ahead then it will need to be kept that way and he have access to see any messages etc. And that I will check in with him just for reassurance but also safety which is most important.

Weird post for five thirty in the afternoon on Christmas Day.

Loading and unloading the dishwasher excites some more than others, I guess.

The sex board has been suspiciously active this week—lots of free time off work, I guess.

Absolutely you say yes if you and your husband have talked about it and you’re both onboard with it - why not go for it? I’ve done this in the past and when I knew my partner was out screwing it was just so intense. The ‘reclaim sex’ when she returned home was absolutely amazing. It’s not for everyone but it worked for us. Life is too short to miss out on opportunities!

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You guys have had a threesome in the past. This should be familiar ground for you two. You would enjoy it. He suggested it. Go for it.