Scaring from Thrush

[IHE]

(50 something male.)
I recently contracted genital Thrush from someone I was dating for a few months. It has been successfully treated but has left what the GP suspects are a couple of permanent scars on my glans. There's no loss of function and no risk of transmission, but they are clearly visible as abnormalities.
(Please, before anyone judges me for having unprotected sex, although I accept responsibility for my own actions, I was the one who wanted to use condoms. But that's another story.)

I would very much like to find another nesting/sexual partner, but I am very conscious that that will necessitate a conversation about the scars. I just have no idea how to have that conversation. It's not exactly something I can bring up on a romantic, pre-first-sex date, nor is it something I want to leave till it gets seen. Addressing it as I take my pants off for the first time is likely to be an instant passion killer (or worse!), discussing a previous sexual partner rarely seems to be positive (especially when attribution of blame is difficult to avoid), and showing someone the limited available info on your NHS app at the early stage of a relationship (especially if it could be months or years old) would be really challenging.

How/when would you want to hear the explanation and, more importantly, what would it take for that explanation to come across as credible?

If you did not tell a person you were going to sleep with about the scars, as they are in the position you mentioned, would it be immediately visible to them as you disrobed, imagining your penis remained flaccid initially?

No. They wouldn't be immediately obvious, but it's easy to imagine any number of scenarios in which they'd get noticed.

Check by all means, but if you are uncircumcised I believe you are statistically more likely to pass this condition on

According to all the swab, urine and blood tests, there's no longer anything to pass on. Which leaves me with my original question, at what point do I explain the scars, and what would give that explanation legitimacy?

There are plenty of products available for scars on the rest of the body. I can suggest some but I first think you need to speak to your gp to see if you can use such treatments on such a delicate area. I would think Bio Oil would be the gentlest.
I remember your post a few months back and I take it you caught this from
the woman that wanted sex 3 times a day?

There are some laser treatments that may work to minimise scarring.

There are some laser treatments that may work to minimise scarring.

sorry double posted

Whilst I appreciate advice on mitigating scars, my bigger question is, should the need arise, how and when to explain them.

From my point of view if I was your partner, I would like to know before sex as I’d like assurance I would not be exposing myself to an std. The scars visually would not bother me if I knew what they were.

Agree. Mention at the time you discuss STI tests, before sex. I would also be concerned, but reassured by negative tests.

As an aside, I wouldn’t ’blame’ your ex for giving you thrush when you have the convo. As a woman I’m not sure I’d take that well.

I think its good to discusss sexual habits with each other and stay on high alert.