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Does reality ever live up to fantasy?

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Flyinghigh246 · 08/12/2025 23:05

I’ve been friends with someone since we were young, but recently things have changed and we now ‘sext’. We are graphic with one another and photos (partially covered for protection) have been sent. It’s a huge turn on. We live on opposite sides of the world so we would never date IRL but he is visiting soon. Since we have been friends forever, we are friend first and foremost, everything else is just a bonus. Would hooking up break the fantasy if it doesn’t live up to my imagination or worth it for what’s likely to be a very enjoyable experience

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DanDan88 · 08/12/2025 23:17

I've done this a couple of times and both have been great. You should know each other well enough by now to get on well. Enjoy it.

TwilightSky · 08/12/2025 23:19

It's probably more questions to ask yourself: how much will I regret it if I don't? Am I okay to live with a 'what if' for a while, years maybe?
I think you should just give it a go. Worst case, the magic dies and you find it again elsewhere, but at least you will know for sure.

onetrickponee · 09/12/2025 09:28

yes , but be prepared that it will probably kill things off.
you may not fancy each other IRL

mnmnddddd · 09/12/2025 13:16

TwilightSky · 08/12/2025 23:19

It's probably more questions to ask yourself: how much will I regret it if I don't? Am I okay to live with a 'what if' for a while, years maybe?
I think you should just give it a go. Worst case, the magic dies and you find it again elsewhere, but at least you will know for sure.

I can think of far worse outcomes than "the magic dies and you find it again elsewhere" ... like the magic dies, you never find it again, and you lose a friend in the process.
That said, @Flyinghigh246 , you might have a great time and stay friends.

daphney · 09/12/2025 13:29

I agree with other comments. Especially as this person is over the other side of the world, so what if it doesn't match the fantasy. It's not like you'll see them all the time.

If you want to do it, then go for it,

StarlightLady · 09/12/2025 14:30

There’s nothing wrong with having sex with a good friend, providing you both no the score.

TwilightSky · 09/12/2025 15:31

mnmnddddd · 09/12/2025 13:16

I can think of far worse outcomes than "the magic dies and you find it again elsewhere" ... like the magic dies, you never find it again, and you lose a friend in the process.
That said, @Flyinghigh246 , you might have a great time and stay friends.

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Well, gold star for you! You did indeed think of something worse. Do you feel superior now?

Gymbunny2025 · 09/12/2025 19:39

Sounds like fun- I’d go for it. But understand why you feel cautious.

TillyVanilla · 09/12/2025 20:02

You won't know unless you try! - And might forever regret!

Perhaps make a pinky promise not to fall out over sex...

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Flyinghigh246 · 10/12/2025 08:51

I don’t think we would ever lose our friendship over this. We’ve spoken about it before and have always said the friendship comes first, but I know that’s never a certainty. It’s just nice to have someone to fantasise over and turn me on, I think it would be difficult to find that somewhere else if the sex didn’t live up to all the things he has said

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Gymbunny2025 · 10/12/2025 09:00

The other risk of course is it’s beyond your wildest dreams amazing and after he’s left you spend months or even years feeling you can never replace him. Life is full of risks. It’s totally ok to not want to go there. Or to jump…

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