First time together

[AreWeThereYet69]

I'd sex with someone, after 5 dates, for the first time this weekend. It was good. Not amazing but definitely potential there (We'd both had a couple of drinks which isn't ideal for me).
I went down on him which he seemed to enjoy but he didnt reciprocate. I find that a bit off. At the end I mentioned it casually and asked if it's something he likes and he said yeah sometimes.
Its kinda a deal breaker for me as it's usually the only way I climax.
What do people think? Selfish lover or common enough not to return the favour?
I suppose my last encounters have all been very keen to reciprocate

it's usually the only way I climax.

Just tell him that, balls then in his court as to how he responds to that information. If he gives a toss about pleasing his sexual partners he'll get the message. If he doesn't, you know he's not for you.

I wouldn't mention the first part, about it being a deal breaker, as that could be perceived as being manipulative. But keep the rule in your mind and apply if necessary.

Do many women find they can only orgasm via oral? I've always hand much better success using my hands than giving oral.

I don’t usually orgasm through oral. I must prefer hands generally but with my most recent encounter I did orgasm through oral and then 2nd time via his hands.

@NorthernJim - For me oral gives a far more powerful orgasm than hands. I don't climax through penetration, although it feels very plesant and, as with oral there is that closeness.. With hands I can do a better job myself or with a vibey.

Oral isn't the only way I orgasm but it's probably the most consistent way.
Yep, fingers are good but agree with @StarlightLady I can normally do that better myself!! The occasional time when it happens through penetration is amazing but I know I'll consistently climax with oral.

69 is the best position

Oohh no not for me. I can’t enjoy and give at the same time.

I think it's odd to need a partner to 'love' oral. I don't mind giving it and regularly will but I wouldn't say I love it. If someone said to me you can never give oral again, fine, not devastated! Surely he just needs to be willing which he has indicated he is.

I clench my teeth on orgasm, so probably not the ideal situation in my case.

Completely disagree with this. I would only be interested in someone who LOVES everything he does with me sexually. I’m not interested in someone going through the motions out of duty or so he can have his turn receiving. Can’t think of anything worse!

This!

And surely it needs to involve passion and the enjoyment of sharing the excitement of the other person involved.

I'm exactly the same. I differ from many in that I don't usually climax from oral, it's nice but the sensation isn't strong enough - what I love the most is how my partner adores doing it. He can't get enough. I would never let someone do it if I felt they were just going through the motions, horrible

I think it probably depends on how much you need it and what the pleasure is like in other ways. For me I’m not too fussed so it didn’t matter to me that my partner didn’t do it often as he was amazing with his hands and high I much preferred.