Is there any hope for me?

[IsThereAnyHopeGirls]

Just in the early stages of a relationship with a fabulous man who I am very excited about.

We both absolutely fancy the pants off each other (we've discussed it).

The attraction and mutual sexual tension is literally off the charts. Not sure I have ever felt anything like it before.

He has his history (hasn't had sex for a very long time)..I have mine (bereavement and 1 failed relationship), we've been very open and honest about things, and what we might want out of a physical relationship.

My problem is that my body is really bad. Ruined actually.

2 kids, didn't take care of myself, so have very bad cellulite, flat lumpy, grotesque ass, horrendous thighs etc. Top half slightly better, but still not great.

I'm warm and I'm soft, I have more experience and I'm very willing and excited to be his lover and to satisfy us both, so there is that..but I'm also terrified he will be completely turned off once the clothes come off. Men are visual creatures after all.

My last lover didn't seem to care, but I'm not convinced he was being honest, and the relationship ended very badly (not cheating)

If anyone has had a similar experience I'd be really grateful for your advice or feedback.

If any men have any advice, I would be very grateful for that too.

He will have a realistic idea about what your body looks like if he's seen you in clothes and I'm sure your body is not as bad as you think it is. If he's put off by any part of you then he just isn't the man for you. I am not confident about my own stomach area after 4 children and I was a single mum with my first 3. I was not in prime physical condition, but no one I slept with during that time had a problem with my soft squishy tummy. If they did, they never said anything or made me feel that they did. Most women who have had children show some physical signs of it when naked. If you are really worried, talking about it with him first may reassure you.

It's not so much my size, I know he's fine with that, it's just the cellulite and the bum, which I promise you are extremely bad.

I'm 55, so not young.

I can only hope everything else makes up for it .

Please don't put yourself down like this, everyone's body changes with age and usually there is not much t be done about it. I once knew a women who thought they looked horrible - would tell me all the time before we met about all the things she hated - and when we did had to have lights off before getting naked etc. I found her body very, very sexy and kept telling her this till eventually she began to realize what she had was an asset. In the end she was sending me photos of herself trying on sexy underwear, which she never had the confidence to buy let alone show off to anyone. Your man will be so excited to finally be with you that it will just flow naturally. I would rather have a real woman than a perfect model. Also 55 is young - you are at a prime age for sex - embrace it!

Most grown-up men have seen a real woman before.

Thanks for the replies. Appreciate them.

He absolutely fancies the pants off you. It will be lovely. Seriously. He'll be worrying as well, but it sounds like you're already crazy about each other, and that will carry through.

Thanks ❤️

Find some lingerie that really flatters your shape and gives you confidence. I highly doubt he isn't going to find you highly desirable. I don't think men care about cellulite the way that women do. It usually mean you have fleshy thighs and bum which most men absolutely love so I wouldn't be so negative about your body. Its confidence that makes us sexy. Enjoy your body and expect him to find you sexy.

Such a good reply. Remember too a lot of body insecurities are ones that are driven into us by advertising - what companies want us to think is bad so we buy their products is often what partners love. Sounds really exciting, Enjoy it!

I'm a bloke, the age same as you and my wife is 53. All I can say is not to worry, we are all in the same boat as you when it comes to our bodies! For all you care he might be as worried about his body as well.

Take care ❤️

Thank you so much, I really appreciate the kindness replies. D Day soon (😎) and I'm hoping warmth, tenderness and lots of enthusiasm can make up for anything that is lacking. We are both very much looking forward to it! 🤭

Good luck hope it goes really well for you both and please report back if you want to.

Sounds like a military debrief!! 🤣

I will definitely report back!

thank you and hope it goes well for you both.

Hope all goes well, I’d be surprised if older men aren’t realistic about what real women’s bodies look like as opposed to those on porn sites,especially after several kids, it truly wouldn’t bother me , good luck