‘I’ll have to tell my wife what’s going on soon’. Thread to tut at The Guardians "this is how we do it" sex column

[Lalgarh]

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2025/nov/23/this-is-how-we-do-it-ill-have-to-tell-my-wife-whats-going-on-soon

Almost a guaranteed red flag in every story. Last week was a woman having uncomfortable thoughts about her open relationship to a male who likes wanking frenziedly in women's clothing

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2025/nov/16/this-is-how-we-do-it-i-do-get-jealous-and-question-whether-im-cut-out-for-non-monogamy

Other prurient sex columns from other publications also accepted

I always read that column. I usually find it slightly uncomfortable reading - mainly because I'm in a sexless marriage - but I do think it can also be "challenging", and that's not a euphemism. Sometimes I think the couples have genuinely found what works for them, and well done for stepping outside what society views as normal, and other times it's clear there's a tension in the relationship which will soon become intolerable. The problem is that, for most people (as far as I can tell), sex is bound up inextricably with shame. Some of the people in this column seem to have thrown off shame.

I also like this column's vanilla cousin, "Blind Date". It's lovely when the couples have a spark and also, in a Schadenfreude-ery kind of way, great when they don't. A while back there was a very plain man (though I'm sure he was a great bloke) who they matched with a very handsome woman - and the results were what you'd expect. To be honest, I thought whoever matched them was being a bit cruel. But I still read it seven times.

One of my ex wifes (many) ex partners was on Blind Date much to my amusement

He didnt come over at all well

Would love to knows which one, but probably against privacy rules, rightly.

The Times does a good line in sex articles: usually attractive women who've become single in their 40s or 50s, and they then write a book, or at least an article, about their experiences. Pop up on my X timeline all the time. Of course, that could be the algorithm, and therefore my own fault.

The Blind Date column to which I referred:

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2025/jun/14/blind-date-matthew-emma

She isn't all that

Well, I don't know. She's well out of his league, though, if you believe in that type of thing.

Er she's beautiful. 🙄

He has a lovely kind face.

Upload a photo of yourself so we can all see how you measure up to this standard of beauty you've set.

I munt, poppet. I was merely giving a more objective assessment of someones supposed unattainable appearance in response to another poster

I love that Guardian column and always make sure I read it. It's the ultimate anti-Instagram column. I often read things in there that I think are morally dubious but I like that the column itself simply describes and doesn't judge and has anecdotes from people of all sorts of backgrounds.

Call me cynical but I think a column written by 'usually attractive women who've become single in their 40s or 50s' would be pretty one-dimensional in comparison but happy to be proved wrong.

I apologise for being peak Guardian but I think you're wrong and you're right at the same time 😀. I think she's objectively better looking than him too but without knowing either of them you can't say whether that's relevant at all.

And I also think that the couples are often very mismatched, like the kids who puts a couple of wasps in a jar and shakes it. It's an entertainment column after all though.