Question for the boys.

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I’ve had 4 children and I’m pushing 50. New partner isn’t particularly big in terms of girth. I’d say I’m fairly honest in saying I can’t feel anything when he is inside me unless it’s doggy style.
Just wondering does that mean he can’t feel anything? He does cum during sex so something is happening but can a woman be too big?

Ask him? It's very individual but the sensation for me is not about tightness. That's only a fraction of what makes it enjoyable. You need him to help you feel something, though.

I've never known a woman to be too big, but my preference in sex is for looser rather than tighter.

Yes I still feel everything but I'd rather that than having it tightly squeezed and at times painful.

At the end it's all personal preference and only you'll know if it satisfies you.

Yes a woman can feel too big but in my experience it makes it hard to cum as you don't get that snug feeling, it feels a bit loose etc.

If you're partner is able to cum regularly my guess is its fine from his side.

I wouldn't worry. He is probably getting all the friction he needs by playing around with the angles, depth etc. You could also make his year by doing Kegels, meaning you can clench him. DW can do that and it feels amazing.

Try putting your legs together.

I think it will help your "can't feel anything" as well.

I’m curious that you are worried he can’t feel anything instead of that you can’t feel anything!

Cough during sex and watch his reaction

@Gymbunny2025i get such a kick out of his pleasure. I know I’m not supposed to say that in this day and age but I love taken he gets turned on by me. Ooohhh

inthink I like that he takes charge!

I think it would be reasonable to care about both, but clearly there isn't much a male can do in this situation but exercises can potentially help a female.
My DW definitely changed down there after child no.3 and I would say exercises helped.
And I would assume (might be wrong) if you can't feel much OP it is probably the same for him, however he is probably getting turned on enough without the friction and that's enabling him to finish

@yorkshireteabagmanreally? You think so? I’d hate if he wasn’t feeling anything.

Totally get that you get a kick out of his pleasure. But as @yorkshireteabagmansays you at least need to care about both! Having said that, I do think guys on the smaller side can be difficult to ‘feel’ no matter how toned our pelvic floor is. But definitely worth trying for your pleasure and his?

I'd only be assuming based on friction. The only one who can properly answer is him

Guy I see occasionally (FWB I guess) isn’t particularly large, but I can definitely feel him. One way to help would be to put your legs over his shoulder. My man likes to do that, and it can be a bit painful for me at times, I tend to prefer one leg! It does help though to feel him more. I like to go on top too, can control the depth etc more then. One benefit of smaller penis is a BJ is much less gaggy!

Unfortunately, yes he probably is getting a bit less friction, especially if you cannot feel him.

i have a similar issue, my new partner gets very wet ( bed wetting wet ), to the extent that there is little friction during intercourse

The question is, do you get pleasure from him? I had a significantly younger male partner for a brief period some years ago. Handsome, tiny penis. He got pleasure from my pleasure and generally took me from behind and was well aware of his relative size, so we integrated it ( he had a fetish about it, and I dind't mind it, and loved him licking me out) into our sex lives, including a game where I could see how much of a steady repetitive task I could do while being taken from behind by him with his miniscule appendage. I once managed a good portion of a clients tax return on my laptop while in flagrante. If your lover still has a foreskin he is more likely to feel pleasure even with a small prick.

Had experience of this with my wife of 40 plus years. There is still sensation and as others have suggested with legs together it is even better.
Another solution is to place a pillow just under the buttocks.