Was this odd?

[KensingtonGardens]

I'm a man, in a comparatively new relationship with a woman. I'd not had sex with anyone for a few months, she for a long time -she hasn't said, but years.
She said how surprised and pleased she was that her libido came back so strongly.
I think our sex life has been quite satisfying for her so far and she likes a lot of sensual touching. She doesn't cum from PIV, but does perhaps 80% of the time when I give her oral or fingering.
Recently, when she came to my house in the afternoon the expectation was she would stay the night. She was tired so went to my room for a doze for a couple of hours. When she came out of the room she told me she hadn't slept but had rested and had a wank. That night she stayed over and we did have sex (PIV) but she wasn't very enthusiastic, turned down oral/fingering, so didn't cum.
I would have happily joined her in bed and given her an orgasm by any way she wanted if she'd asked.

I think it’s strange she stayed in the bedroom for hours without sleeping. I also think it’s a bit weird she told you she masturbated (but maybe you guys are very open about when you masturbate).
How long have you been together?

Maybe she was trying to fall asleep by wanking? I sometimes do! I think if just a one off then move on? Not like she turned down sex with you so I’m sure all is ok

I agree with with as I do to, it’s almost habit now if my DP isn’t with me.

However, if this was a women who posted that her man had a sneaky wank and was unenthusiastic about sax then we both know there would be uproar here!

but I wouldn’t read too much into it OP, I’d be more concerned if she had a wank INSTEAD of having sex with you. I’d also ask her and suggest next time she wants a ‘sleep’ you’d love to join her and get her to sleep.

I do know what you mean. I was trying to put myself in his position though. If a guy did it as a one off but we still had sex I’d be ok with it. But not a regular thing obvs!

The needs of both and the effort required in both situations are so different, l wouldn’t give this a second thought. Remember she needn’t have told you either.

I definitely wouldn’t do this and also wouldn’t have shared this but hey ho we are all different. I might be a bit miffed too but for me, having had an orgasm earlier in the day wouldn’t have impacted my motivation for sex later in the day so maybe she just wasn’t feeling it and was still tired. Although being fingered and masturbating results in the same outcome, asking you to join her would probably have resulted in more than just that and maybe she was too tired and just wanted a quick fix at that point.

Me too, I sometimes wank before going to sleep on my own but I would not knowing I'd be having sex with my partner a few hours later.
Mind you, as a man of my age my ability to have more than one orgasm within a few hours is limited! whereas some partners I've had have been enthusiastically multi-orgasmic.
Not my current partner though, so in a way her having a solo wank was a choice not to cum later with me.
She has said to me that in terms of sex I'm the giver and she's the taker, so we'll see how that goes.

Not so odd that she did it.
A bit odd that she felt the need to communicate it so strongly to you.
I have zero qualms over masturbating while in a relationship, but I find it odd to announce it.

Like others have said, having an orgasm through masturbation just satisfies a different need than the one we have during sex together. A lot of people use it to relax or to help them fall asleep.

I wouldn’t think too much of it. As a woman, I can understand that restless headspace when you’re trying to sleep but feel turned on. Sometimes a wank is needed to be able to switch off.

I also wouldn’t have a problem with a partner sharing that information. She’s being upfront and honest about her needs.

Not odd....just already had an orgasm that day, and happy enough with that. I expect she thinks they'll be load more time for sex together. I wouldn't dwell on it...other than maybe you feel a little left out...but don't.

Update.
We saw each other last weekend, for the first time in 2 weeks. Saturday night we had a lot - a lot! -to drink and had sex. I gave her oral and thought at the time she came (she said no she hadn’t) then had PIV.
On Sunday at first she couldn’t remember having had sex at all the night before-but later in the day said she did remember.
On Sunday morning I fingered her, and she didn’t come, and we had PIV. She later said she was very hungover.
Sunday afternoon it was my turn to be tired and went to bed (this was at her place) for a nap, and she joined me. Snooze, fingered her, she came, PIV.
We had a short discussion about when we each liked to have sex. I asked her if she had a preference and she said Wednesday evenings and Saturday mornings!

I asked her if she had a preference and she said Wednesday evenings and Saturday mornings

that’s oddly specific