Sorry this is rather long I just wanted other’s experiences/ inputs. Just as the title says but I wanna go a bit deeper. Ok, so I have never once had an orgasm from penetration. I have squirted many times but it was just an involuntary reaction to the stimulation and nothing more, it didn’t feel “good” and I didn’t orgasm. My now ex of very recent seems to be under the impression or delusion that every woman cums from sex. We were having a general conversation about this and I told him that they actually don’t and that sex for a lot of women starts in the mind and remains there, sometimes it’s the thoughts that get you going or it can be the emotional side if you’re in love. I don’t know how to explain that well but for me it was… the actual act of sex was neither here nor there but I loved it because of who I was doing it with, in the case with him because I was madly in love. I’ve also had encounters where there were absolutely no feelings at all and tbh more of a hook up situations but again it was the thought of “this man wanting my body” that I enjoyed and got turned on by rather than the actual sex itself. I can make myself orgasm in minutes, sometimes seconds with no problem but that is clitoral stimulation. I rarely insert toys during masturbation because it simply just doesn’t do anything for me. Anyway going back to my ex and our chat he was adamant that every woman he’s been with including me has cum from sex. I told him that many women cannot and need clitoral play to achieve an orgasm but he kept telling me I was wrong. Onto the next subject…. Again my ex in my opinion is so naive he’s one of them guys who thinks everything he sees in porn is how it should be done and that the women are most definitely cumming again and again. I told him a lot of it is fake and for the cameras and referred to a well known OF model who in an interview was honest and said she has never cum in any of her videos despite obviously portraying that she does, it’s all acting. She was very open and said that whilst filming anal scenes there would be film cuts and breaks and even whilst the filming was in action she would be sniffing poppers under the pillow. I have never really been able to reach orgasm through oral sex either and again it has everything to do with men doing what they see in porn, 1 being the sucking the clit trick that is in almost every porn scene but in my case I can feel teeth too and honestly all this does is make my legs twitch like crazy but it feels awful and actually takes the sensation away of building up to an orgasm. Number 2 is when they again suck onto the clit and then do that head shaking thing, it just feels so unbelievably shit. It’s as if guys don’t know the basics that (for me anyway) making sure their tongue is wet enough with saliva at all times is important. I’ve also had the same problem again and again where I will start of wet and then guys will rub my clit so hard that it goes completely dry and it doesn’t even feel good but it just hurts and feels awful but they seem to think that the excessive rubbing is what will get me off. I’ve had fingers being literally shoved in and again excessive in and out that it makes me go from being wet to completely dry and yet they still don’t stop and switch it up yet they rather just carry on and all it does is feel dry like the Sahara and then feels sore. Now I’ve had a few sexual partners so I’m not even referring to one or 2 guys here, it is quite literally the same story again and again with every guy. I guess to round it up it’s the excessive hard rubbing of my clit and fingering and then the sucking with teeth on my clit which makes me so sore that is just really annoying for me. I honestly have reached the point where I can eye roll at the thought of sex because I know how it’ll end and I’m bored of faking orgasms. Just for your information I have absolutely no problems with vaginal dryness and I infact do start of very wet during sex but then here comes the hard rubbing and teeth sucking on my clit and it just dries me up and feels shit as anything. I have said to guys please forget all this extra stuff and quite simply just make sure your tongue is wet and just lick and I’ll orgasm in minutes, no sucking and biting but they still will do it because it’s programmed into them from
what they’ve seen in porn. I do appreciate that some women may enjoy the sucking thing (if you even understand what I’m talking about). I’ve also told guys every woman is different and needs different motions and speeds to achieve orgasm but it goes nowhere and we end up back with me feeling like I’m in a porno.