Partners friends want him for threesome

[GlasGal77]

My husbands best friend and his wife want him to join them in a threesome. The wife wants sex with two men at the same time but no contact between the men.
They got him really drunk this time last year and he had said at the time the wife had seemed oddly flirty and full on and the husband appeared to be encouraging it. Nothing happened so now his friend has told him they both discussed another man and agreed that they wouldnt mind if it was him if there was a situation where they had drinks again and things just happened naturally.
He expects me still to socialise with them as his friend wouldnt expect that he would tell me about the conversation.
He also said its nothing for me to worry about as hes not interested. But in the next breath said he had suggested the idea of a wife swap situation to his friend.
I said a few years ago it seemed as if this woman had a thing for him and hes always denied it. She had a hand in causing problems in previous relationship s of his so it all seems pretty obvious now to me.
Also I am pretty open so if my husband had floated the idea of inviting another couple into the bedroom, I would consider it (not that couple as i find neither of them attractive) but he hasn't til now, and to his friend before me lol
Just looking for other people's thoughts really. We have a couples date tomorrow. Sunday brunch and bottomless cocktails and I just know I won't be able to sit and not bring it up!

He suggested the idea of a wife swap to his friend without discussing and agreeing with you first?! I’m not sure I’d even want to bring that up let alone go to brunch with him!

I know. I only found out about this yesterday and I think it's only just sinking in. I was more focused on the fact he must want to have sex with her if he had come up with a situation where it could happen but without him cheating as such. Brunch or further couple dates won't be happening but I am so tempted to confront all 3 in person at the same time

Do you have a mortgage and children with your DP?

No ties at all. We don't have children and we manage our businesses and finances separately. So pretty easy just to walk away

This thread is more suited to the “relationships” board. I’d consider asking for it to be moved as you’ll get a lot more traffic in there.

Basically you’re going to have brunch tomorrow with a woman who is trying to shag your partner… I’d be making an excuse not to go. If your partner cares about you, he’d understand, and phase out this friendship.

Sorry, if I’d read this probably first, I’d have seen that you’ve already said you’re not going on the brunch.

I wouldn't get hung up on the wife swapping comment without knowing the whole conversation or the tone in which it was said. It could easily have been just a joke or to call his bluff. "I'll show you mine if you show me yours."

The positive thing to take from this is that your husband told you and has said he's not interested. Remember this isn't something your husband has done, but rather somethimg his friend suggested.

In the context, you might want to have a proper conversation about this with your DH before you have brunch and cocktails. If you feel threatened by this couple, or are concerned about his intentions, you need to communicate this to him in a way that isn't confrontational. If they've asked him, they have had more conversations about it with eachother and have some momentum, so it's probable they will ask again.

The brunch is absolutely not happening. And I think safe to say no further meet ups on my part either. It's no secret in the wider friend group that theye wanted to bring another man in for a while. I just didn't realise it was mine. They've definitely discussed it for at least a year as that's when they had set up a situation hoping it would happen. Now that I think of it theres been instances which seem odd now but didn't at the time because of how long he has been friends with both. I took the wife swap thing to be a joke at first or testing to see what the friend would say, and he has said he wouldn't go throught with anything like that. Normally I would trust and let it go but something doesn't feel right. When we talk about it he just laughs and says he will need to be careful when he goes drinking and stays over at their house as who knows what they will have planned. He has not stayed over with them in years so if that suddenly becomes a thing again then I know why!

Straight up the other guy's wife fancies your husband.
When I was at uni my then boyfriend had a really hot mate. He had a girlfriend and I had a BF so I could never see anything happening but I couldn't get my mind off him.
I ended up suggesting a threesome with me, my BF and a girlfriend of mine (who was not very attractive) which my BF loved.
Then I suggested we should try a MMF which he was less happy about but which I explained was only fair. I subtly suggested his hot mate and wow, what a night we had, it was amazing 🤩