Anorgasmia

[bennyking]

I’ve always felt like I’ve had ‘physical’ orgasms, but disconnected from emotion. Does anyone understand this?

I have a history of abuse, ptsd etc so been trying to find the solution to this for years but not got there - yet.

So I can have the physical sensations (flushed, increased heartbeat, lubrication etc) but I never connect with my feelings.

I feel very sad about it and wondered if anyone else knows what I mean.

For me, an orgasm is an incredibly intense and pleasurable physical sensation, but there’s nothing emotional about it… I don’t think there’s any room for emotions when the physical rush is so strong.

That doesn’t mean that the orgasm isn’t part of an intimate and bonding sexual experience with my partner, just that the moment of orgasm is a physical not an emotional sensation.

I don’t find it an emotional experience, I think it’s very normal not to.

It may be for some, but that doesn’t mean it is abnormal if it isn’t. I have also never gotten feelings after sex so I guess it is linked to that.

I’ve decided to seek professional help and have contacted a sex therapist as I’m 99% sure it’s psychological and not rooted in any physical cause.

I think I misdescribed what I usually feel in my original post. I think my orgasms are just incredibly weak and underwhelming, rather than unemotional.

I’m fed up living like this, I feel joyless, frustrated and unsatisfied, like I’m missing out on a huge chunk of life.

Have you experimented with toys? The Lelo was a game changer for me, gives very intense orgasms.

They have never done anything for me @bowtieandheelsand I’ve tried a few - all based on people’s recommendations that they would change my life but they haven’t. When masturbating I am much more comfortable with my hand.

I know what you mean. I have a few toys but my orgasms are so much better when done “by hand” than with a toy.

I have found a therapist I think I’ll click with. I’m very excited about sorting this stuff out. It finally feels right to confront and really examine. I’m fed up with it. I want to move on.

Probs no one is reading but I’ve found a therapist and I’m really excited about getting started on my new journey. I don’t care how much it costs or how long it takes, I just want to feel and feel connection. I don’t give a fuck about anything else trivial or material right now.