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New partner and sex

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ThatAquaRobin · 12/10/2025 20:13

I have been seeing someone for the past 3 weeks or so and we had sex last night.
He called me baby and darling during my sex but it's not my thing. How do I bring it up? Sex was so so but I think we can get better. (There's potential)
We're similar age early 50s.
I've just not long come out of a car crash relationship over the summer where there was odd the scale chemistry but this one feels.more of a safe slow burn.
But I need him to stop saying baby. Without putting him off.
What should I say?

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OldJohn · 12/10/2025 20:28

Be honest with him. Tell him.what you like abd do not like and make sure he feels able to be honest with you.
Great sex needs good communication

Gymbunny2025 · 12/10/2025 20:49

Hmmm…. I’d say great sex firstly needs great chemistry. Which it doesn’t sound like there is? And the calling you baby would have given me instant ick!

mnmnddddd · 13/10/2025 07:56

Have a conversation about words like that away from the bedroom. It's easier to have them sooner rather than later. It may be that that's what he's used to, and that's ok. (I personally hate it.) What matters is how he responds to your request to stop.

Londonlawyer72 · 13/10/2025 08:31

as others have said communication is key, sex and relationships is not a one size fits all.

I used the term bitch (not in a derogatory way) the second time we had sex with my current partner, and she got really upset by it so it’s never been said again. My ex liked that sort of talk so I learnt and have never said it since.

we call each other baby, at first I thought it was a bit soppy but it’s just part of our communication now.

ruffler45 · 13/10/2025 11:05

Tell him what words you want him to use..Miss, Milady, Mistress! etc etc

Baby and darling are a bit past their sell by date....

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ThatAquaRobin · 13/10/2025 13:12

I really fancy him. He's considerate, respectful and good looking. Cares for his family and has no red flags.
A real rarity for a man in his early 50s
He's everything that my ex BF wasn't.
But my alcohol and coke-addicted ex was so hot in bed that it has messed up my attraction radar.
It doesn't help that my ex was huge (down there) too.

The first thing my new guy did was to go down on me, so he's not shy. He's very tactile and keen
I think there's a lot of potential but calling me "baby" gives me the ick
Basically I want to bring out the dirty side of my new partner.

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