Menopausal libido increase

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This is a thing right?

having had very little desire at all for years and years, at 50 I am suddenly on fire. It’s all I can think about and even after having sex I still feel horny. We have gone from 3x a year to every night.

its fantastic. Please tell me it won’t go as quickly as it started?

Oh god, it’s definitely a thing. I’ve become a ravenous beast who wants to devour men!

Yup sorry op happened to me, was wild for a few months and now it’s settled down a bit x2 a week is more likely, prior to HRT x2 a year!

It's exciting to be feeling this way but also frustrating at the same time. Men seem to be on my mind constantly. I'm actually noticing men when I'm out and then I end up fantasising about them when I'm at home. A fit-looking man who looked to be around mid-30s smiled at me in a shop the other day. I was getting fanny gallops just from that. I was thinking about things like what he would be like in bed, and wondering if he is a good kisser. 😄 It's happened to me with older men as well.

I became more confident too. I had absolutely no idea what was happening to me at first (for quite a while, actually) as I’d always been told women dried up and went off sex altogether at menopause! I’d never heard of the sex surge etc. I was definitely more confident around men and they noticed! I was hugged a lot more etc. I even sailed through a tough interview and got a promotion I’d been after for years!!! I dressed differently and acted differently and it made me realise (once I’d figured out what was going on) how powerful hormones are and how they can affect your entire life!

Unfortunately for me, I was already living in a sexless marriage and I ended up with someone else (married - stupidly). He is still in my life - hard to let go etc. but it has done me a lot of damage as I ended my marriage etc. I’m now on my own.

It never went completely. I’m still very sexual (at 53) but the wearing of naughty (tight lol) clothing did stop! I think the whole episode has shook me up a lot tbh. Started at 45!!! I didn’t have any females in my family (older) to pass this information on to me so I was completely clueless and unprepared!

Doesn’t do it for me! I love to played with and not by me!

I m glad I found this thread! Im 53 and Im single.I just started internet dating 2 months ago.As soon as I started doing it , it seemed to trigger this huge leap in libido.. Just the mere possibility of a sexual partner. I split up with a long term partner about three years ago. I haven't had sex with anyone since then and I haven't had sex that I particularly enjoyed for probably about ten years now. Now I can barely think of anything else and IM trying not to let it make me make bad decisions regarding the internet dating , but it's quite hard lol.
I was worried that it might be a really short-term thing, and by the time I meet someone I like, my libido may have gone flat again, but. reading this thread.It seems that this could continue for some time ..hooray!

It does die down but, for me, I’d say I’m a lot more sexual than I was before (but that could have a lot to do with the fact I was with someone - for over 25 years - who I knew (deep down) I wasn’t attracted to; and he was the most boring man in the bedroom you could ever wish to have.

Internet dating will create this effect as the conversations can be easier when you are in the comfort of your own space and the other person is a fantasy in your own mind. They lack human flaws and you both have time to consider what to say to each other. Its also easier for both you and him to be less shy about what you want sexually, which adds to the effect.

@HRTlibido I am like this too. I keep noticing men, imagining what they would be like in bed. One work colleague turned up in cycling shorts last week and I was all a quiver all day.

@OpalFruitsMakeYourMouthWater My married bedroom is pretty much dead, certainly on life support with the tiniest increase in heart rate recently. We have opened things up and I have found a FwB who is helping me enjoy this libido increase. I’m glad that I may be able to enjoy it for a few more years yet!

@Aishabibi I hope to be in a LTR before that hits and I get turned on by things like cycling shorts 😂

Interesting,

Is the “tiniest increase in heart rate recently” because of you opening things up or in spite of it?

only interested because I’m know your certainly not the only one who’s coped with your increase in libido this way.

yes it's insane, it's through the roof

watch 'Babygirl' and you will feel physically sick with desire, I guarantee

@valentinka31 I don't think advising everyone in this thread to watch something that further increases their libido is a good idea 😅
Unless they have a partner willing to handle the consequences

hm yes you're right, but I thought it might give them a bit of a distraction (/focus/relief)