What’s your true body count? And are you honest?

[Gambino1726]

Recently the topic of body count came up with friends. Most of my friends, married said they were sub 10, I have one or two friends, who admitted they were in treble figures, married ones were honest with their partners, whereas us single ladies admitted we were lowering the number if a guy asked.

what are people’s true number and are you honest when/if a guy asks?

I would probably not be honest if a guy asked, as I don’t want that judgement.

I agree, my personal count is unexceptional but, I young lady a had a long term relationship with volunteered some of her experiences and claimed 12 pervious sexual partners ( probably double that from her own stories). She'd had her first partner at 15 and spread her wings fully at university. After uni she went through several relationships and had a FWB who fulfilled her needs as well.
She was an education for me. Even then I don't think she fully fulfilled her desire. There were hints of a real kinky side which I wasn't ready for.
She went on to marry her FWB .
Early in my relationship with my now wife she commented that I was experienced and had had a good teacher! If only she knew.

I find the term body count very off putting. I also find it very off putting when people ask how many people you’ve slept with. (Whether these are friends or partners). It’s no one’s business except the 2 adults who decided to have sex together. The only thing that is relevant for a new partner is whether safe sex was practised and if not whether someone has bern tested to make sure they don’t have std’s.

This!

I don’t know my partners ‘body count’ and he doesn’t know mine, we have never discussed it or felt the need to. I was married for 25 years before divorce and we never discussed it either. I agree it’s not the number that counts anyway.

Slut shame me all you want but I’m in the region of 250/300 and regret nothing.
I’m 49 now and I’ve always had a very high sex drive and was very promiscuous when younger and was known as the town bike.

Was at approx.150 before we got into swinging years ago and must’ve doubled that number.

I'm on 2. DH is one - I'm his first and only! My other/first was just a short term relationship of a few weeks.

First husband was number 3 current husband is number 8.
He doesn't know my count and I don't know his. After all I accumulated 4-8 in 4 months of on line dating. My husband did on line dating for many years so I'm sure his count is pretty high. I don't really want to know though.
None of my friends know.

Somewhere between 35 and 40, I’m not sure of the exact number. But I wouldn’t tell any man who asked, and would think fairly dimly of him for asking in the first place, tbh.

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About 40 men, about 10 women?

I discuss it with friends or lovers if it comes up naturally. I would not entertain the discussion with anyone who I felt sought the information to enable them to judge me.

Up to last week 4m and 2F
Now 5 and 3.
Only the first 2men were meaningful. #1 teenage to Uni One woman at uni.

#2M was Late Husband uni to 20 years marriage. Hoping that present GF becomes meaningful. We are friends.

#5M could well be the last M.

You’ve had a busy week 😉.

@StarlightLady . Yes, friends had taken it on themselves to match-make and get me sorted this year. I think they like big hats and marzipan.
He was a severe disappointment in bed, after 3 nice fun dates. Not much life in him/it. I am not going to run a raining session!!

It was nice that GF of several months stayed over.

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Ha ha
Reminds me of myself in the middle to late eighties at RAF Brize as a recently separated mid twenties nymph with a large captive male audience lol

13 here at age 51. Yes, I'm honest with partners. I want to be known.

I had 15 monogamous years while I was married. I'm the monogamous type.

My number would be much, much higher than 13 at age 51 if I didn't find it so difficult to fancy people enough to have sex with them. My marriage wasn't very sexy, and I wish I had had a lot more sex in my life.

Similar here. I’m female, now aged 53.

1 until I turned 45 😧.

I was the youngest of 3 children with two older brothers. I distinctly remember my older brothers (and my mum) telling me I’d get called a slag if I slept around.

My husband, the 1, was very poor in the bedroom. We lacked passion, as a couple, and we drifted into a sexless marriage (of many years). Trying to be the ‘good wife/good person’, or whatever you want to call it, I remained in the marriage (even though there was a massive gap in my life).

Roll on a few years and I hit menopause at 45. Went bat-shit crazy, hormonally, and drifted from the marriage. I had no idea about the sex surge, at the time, but it changed my life. I realised I no longer wanted my husband AT ALL in a sexual way and ended up involved with other men. I slept with another 5 - almost back to back! One has remained in my life for the last 8 years and, stupidly, I developed feelings for him (married and I deeply regret starting it off - it was never meant to go as far as it did).

I ended my marriage immediately after realising the way I was feeling - straight after I got involved with someone else. It was an eye opener. I was suddenly in a world of passionate men. I loved it - won’t lie - but deep feelings for one led to it being exclusive with him. Unfortunately for me, he remains married and I’m a twat! I live alone now and my life has been turned upside down - I have been unable to find anyone else (available). I am grateful that I was able to experience that passion, and return it, but deeply unhappy I have wasted many years of my life in a sub-standard marriage.

Not all men are the same, as I discovered, and maybe it’s a good thing to experience more than one or two in order to find your match.

Is it a question of context and circumstances at particular periods in our lives? For me , it was 3 until 29. After the breakup of a long term relationship, I had a crazy year involving 2 or 3 ons every week. Whilst fun at first , I was left feeling unfulfilled and ended up looking for a relationship , ended up getting married and was monogamous for a long time. In recent years, the sex here has become boring and I’ve occasionally drifted to those old ways

I have the mindset of being completely open with the person I love and are in a relationship with, and with that, I think we should be able to talk about anything :) I do however get why someone could feel that question is way too personal, I certainly wouldn't use it as part of getting to know someone.To be completely honest, in the hypothetical situation where I am single and I am getting to know a potential partner, I could see myself feel a level of insecurity or could potentially be uncomfortable if the potential partner has such a high number that it would shock me. Don't get me wrong, I would never think less of anyone just because someone has slept with a lot of people in her lifetime.. Some of my best friends (ladies, mostly) have explored on that front for 20 years, and they are not lesser in my eyes for it. I am just being transparent, and it is just about a personal preference when it comes to choosing a partner. I think that should be allowed for anyone, just like when someone says "I wouldn't date a smoker or a man if he is under 6 feet". It is what I believe in, at least...

To answer the question - I have had 4 partners total (including my wife - been together since university, so that number will most likely stop here).