Self conscious about neighbours hearing us when intimate

[Anxiousgirl9619]

My partner and I have been living in our house for 4 years and through those years we've had many renters come and go from the adjoining house. Most of them were never at home but we have a new family who have moved in.

I'm always really self conscious after me and my partner have sex that our neighbours heard everything as we can hear them snoring through the walls and their bed seems to sit directly behind ours with the wall between.

I know it's probably inevitable that they would hear it at some stage but anytime I see them out with their child I feel so anxious that they are judging me for making noise.

Anyone else have these worries?
Any advice or words of wisdom.

I get paranoid too in the summer when we need the windows open. Our neighbours aren’t close by but if they were in the garden I’m never sure if they could hear us (me). It’s annoying not knowing isn’t it. I’d be mortified if they could hear

Talk to a company like Soundstop or Accoustical Solutions.(No affiliation to either.)
If you're competent at DIY, you can soundproof a wall to professional standards in a weekend.
Failing that, could you have sex more quietly?

We’re in a detached property so it’s not something I worry about but I do try to be slightly quieter if the windows are open, just in case they are outside.

However, if they did actually hear anything I wouldn’t be that bothered about it, not enough to be so anxious about it.

I live in a terrace and worry about this too. I try to make sure windows are closed at least. But my partner may only stay one or two weekends a months as we are long distance so I think - sod it if they hear through the walls, it's not all the time. But I'd definitely rather they didn't.

I feel able to make more noise when staying at my partner's house as I care less about his neighbours!

Invest in a gag maybe. Have your partner put a piece of cloth in your mouth or tape it up.
You can also get ballgags and/or bit gags on places like Lovehoney.

Many years ago we lived in an old terraced house and the front bedroom had adjoining walls on both sides. Some nights we'd get stereo sound of oooos and ahhhhs..... We moved into the back bedroom for a while. And removed the headboard from our bed. Yes we were self-conscious of what noise we made.