Mid 30’s - non existent sex drive/Endometriosis.

[Elizabeth91]

I was hoping for some advice or I suppose to know I’m not going crazy.

I am F and mid 30’s, had always had a very, very high sex drive and then 6 years ago had to come off the pill and not long after was diagnosed with Endometriosis. From coming off the pill, I noticed my sex drive start to wane, I stopped being interested and that was really unlike me, from having a really high one to practically non existent was a little concerning. Then getting diagnosed with Endometriosis didn’t help. The fatigue that comes with that affects me quite a lot. I have zero energy and as soon as we get in bed I’m asleep.

I’ve been with my other half for over a decade, he’s been privy to both the high drive and now the low drive and as supportive as he has been, I’ve found it really difficult to explain that I still love him and find him extremely attractive, and desire him that way, he is literally perfect but just have no drive to initiate it. I enjoy it when we do it but also, can just go without now because there’s no drive there for it but yet I miss it? I can see him becoming affected by this and it’s affecting me too.

I went to the Dr’s to try and explain and they did blood tests which then came back ‘normal’ but at the same time, I was referred back to my Gynaecologist to do further tests and potentially put me on Testosterone.

Had anyone else ever had similar?

You wrote that you don't initiate sex any more, but you still find him attractive, you enjoy it when you do it and you miss it when you don't have it.

This is me to a tee, except for me this happened after child birth.

I told my husband to initiate, and that if he did the answer would pretty much always be yes. I meant it and I've stuck to it. It works for us, he just now understands that he needs to initiate, and I like it when he does.

I hope this helps you!