New mans manhood not hitting the spot

[BootsandCatss]

In a fairly new relationship, he’s a good guy treats me well etc. the issue is sex… I’ve always had a high sex drive and for me it’s quite an important part of a relationship however he just doesn’t satisfy me in the slightest, he’s got a small penis and in all honesty I can’t feel anything when we have sex, I’ve communicated things that I like with foreplay but he just can’t get me off at all no matter what he does. I’ve suggested sex toys but he’s not into that, it’s becoming embarrassing and I’m getting really frustrated by it to the point I don’t even want it anymore which is unlike me. I really can’t see it getting better.

Am I being unreasonable in thinking this is a deal breaker for me?

Not really, having small tits wouldn't stop you enjoying sex. A bucket fanny might be a better analogy.

well if you were a male turned off by small tits it possibly would stop you enjoying the sex yea

It don't think it is the same thing. Tit size doesn't determine whether intercourse can work or not, where as a cock that can't do the job will. The second point is that it is not difficult to determine the size of someone's tits before you decide to sleep with them or not. What most of the women on here (including me) aren't happy about is men who aren't upfront about it, acknowledging it or willing to find ways of working with it, because unlike with tits, we don't get to see what size cock we are getting until everything is already well underway😀

What?!!

well I think you're wrong and I can say from experience, a long time ago, that someone who's body when naked didn't do it for me, failed to ignite what's required to 'make it work'.
I'm not sure why a bloke would need to be upfront about having a small cock, unless it was on a tick list given to him beforehand or he's asked the question before the deed. Fair enough if he wants to be upfront about it, but surely it's not a requirement. Not that I care too much, just seems like some harsh expectations

So with the woman whose body didn't do it for you? Did you keep seeing her or not? If you did, fair play to you, I've got no right to disagree with you, but if you didn't because of her body, that's the point/question that the OP is raising.

Sorry, just to add to the last post, but just to clarify this is Mumsnet right? So we are discussing sex between people that are already parents and not innocents and should know what works and doesn't. I have had three children. I didn't need C sections and so although I have 3 lovely kids, I can no longer accommodate a tiny cock. I make this very clear to anyone I meet when intimacy is possible. All I am asking is for a bit more of the same from the other person.

I agree with your sentiment though perhaps not your analogy here. Tits aren’t genitalia and you can usually see what you’re getting before unwrapping!

Copy and paste the original post, reverse the roles and substitute ‘small penis’ for ‘loose vagina’ and yes I think any bloke posting that would, rightly, get ripped to bits.

Ultimately it’s two separate points. That he’s not as well endowed as you’d hoped for and that he’s actually a bit of an inconsiderate lover. Only one of those can change (it probably never would though).

Ignorant beyond words. Guy here and yes I'll say it I have a small penis, it's obviously something I am conscious of. I'm engaged to a wonderful woman, was married for 20 years and had another long term relationship and a few flings and ONS and I can honestly say I have never had any complaints

The fact that he said no one has complained before just means no one had the guts to point out he has a small one unfortunately

I’m interested that her body was so different naked vs clothed?

I guess that’s the thing about genitals- difficult to know if they’re going to work together until you try them out! And I do think everyone has different preferences although maybe some are more popular than others (same as all physical characteristics though). For me I’m like Goldilocks. Not too big not too small… just right!

I do agree we don’t need to be upfront. If a man asked to see a pic of my bits before he’d have sex with me he’d be disappointed!

Lots of men are insecure about their penis and think it is small. What size are we calling small these days?

I'm definitely not questioning the need for a larger penis. We have 3 natural birth children and there was a noticeable difference to me. I'm quite large but since no.3 have really felt more girth is required, but there we go.

My point is really I don't see it right that blokes with a small penis should be expected to wear a badge announcing it to every person they meet like suggested, or be spoken about in the tone of the previous poster.

@Gymbunny2025 not necessarily different, I don't know, just in the flesh I remember not being turned on and at the time I was a 19yr old walking erection pretty much. I was also still learning about different women's bodies at that point and likes and dislikes, probably as women do with men. But my point being, yes it did make a difference to me for PIV

If you believe urban legend they don’t need to wear a badge. Just check out the car they’re driving 😂

that means mines changed all shapes and sizes 😄

If your not deeply in love let him go. It's never going to fully satisfy you and you will come to regret it.

Introduce toys to the event.

I left him months ago, needs weren’t being met and as long as he was getting his pleasure he didn’t care. So wasn’t worth it to me :)

A micropenis is a no go. A cockring can make a big difference though if the guy is willing.