What would you do?

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My DH & I have been together for 10 years, married for 8. Lately, we’ve made a new friend. This friend is very flirty towards both myself, and my DH, when we are apart and together. This friend has very strongly hinted they’d be open to the 3 of us……. This has been ongoing for about 8 months, and I never dreamt it would come to fruition. However, last night myself and my DH finally discussed it in a serious manner. And it’s apparent we really want to do this. But we have never shared our sex life - how do you actually go about this?

I sent a text to our friend this morning saying “we’re up for it” and that’s all I wrote. The friend wrote back “about time. This weekend? ;)”

nervous aahhh!

Be ready for Pandora’s box yo be opened ..,

Terrible idea with people you know.

Is this friendship a “take it or leave it” type relationship because you need to consider the options if things go pear shaped……

Is this a single woman who fancies you both?
You use singular and plural in your description.
Which could be a FMF or MFF or the next weekend it's M & new F and you are left home alone.
Maybe it's F+F and he is abandoned.
These scenarios feature in Threads here.
Take care OP.

Is this a ffm or a mfm?

Make sure that all three of you have properly discussed it and know what the boundaries are. Also make sure you have a ‘safe word’ incase none of you feel comfortable and need to take a break.

Personally I would start very slowly I would purchase a massage table as an ice breaker take it in turns to massage each other , get use to being naked and aroused in the presence of some else , definitely set clear boundaries first
keep It as very intimate touch mutual mastrubation etc , then talk to each other afterwards before the next play date and then take it to the next level if everyone is enjoying it , communication is key .

I just think you are putting your marriage at risk but I’m very much a person who values it bring myself snd my partner in our sex life. I would be jealous if my partner was having sex with my friend as well as me! Do you not think what would change your relationships dynamics? Say if you feel left out when they are having sex ( your friend and your husband?). Have you got an agreement with your husband that you have a signal or word if either one of you want it to stop ( I doubt it will. Be him btw). You may end up getting hurt or worse losing your H in this entanglement that you are facilitating.

You mean is this marriage a ‘take it or leave it’ type relationship 😂

Not that I believe it anyway

Is this friend male, female, gay bi hetro. ? Did it work out? And what happens next? This sounds like "The Couple Next Door"Chanel 4 drama.
I hope you had/ have the time of your life.

You haven’t said if it’s a man or woman. If a man, be prepared for your husband to be rendered inadequate if other man is bigger, lasts longer and gives you more satisfaction generally. If a woman, be prepared to watch your husband penetrate her. If your marriage could survive either scenario then have at it and enjoy.

Just be ready that your husband might have the time of his life with a new woman involved and you need to be emotionally strong to see and handle that. Assuming it’s a woman you are coupling up with.