Question for women,

[Acerrecas]

Is it possible to not find someone attractive, but still do sexual stuff with them and enjoy it?

I know a girl who i meet up with theres hj bj, masturbating on top of each other, dry humping,
Just the usual foreplay stuff.

She really enjoys it! Gives me instructions what to do ! Gets in to it, but here exact words were to someone, she doesn't find me particularly good looking, but she still really enjoys it?

So my question is! Is that possible, to be doing all this sexual stuff, have fun , but not find the person attractive? I'm curious as I don't think I could do stuff like that if the girl wasn't my cup of tea.

Yes.

I couldn’t. Especially not a BJ.

Not really. With an ex I had stopped finding attractive, we stayed together for a while. Some of the things he did to me he was skilled at but I'd only get aroused with him if I had previously been thinking of someone else and thought of them during the sex. Towards the end of the relationship we were still having sex now and again but I did not want to kiss him or do things to him, rather I let him do things to me. I was repulsed by him in the end and left him.

Are you paying her?

why would a woman perform sex acts for a man she doesn’t find attractive (it sounds like you’re doing nothing for her) unless she was benefiting in some way?

For once I disagree with you 😜

i think for woman attractive goes beyond looks, men, maybe not so much.

I wasn’t physically attracted to my current DP initially, but I loved her personality and our sexual connection was amazing and now I find her very attractive because she is such an amazing person.

Of course OP could be being used, he could be amazing at sex or she could find him very attractive outside of looks.

there are lots of men who are ‘punching’ and looks is often a secondary factor IMO

I couldn't if I didn't find him attractive.
But
I could find him not that perfect-looking but still very attractive.

Attraction is about voice, movement, energy and a load of other things that all add up to hot/or not.

So somehow she finds sex appealing with you. Or she wouldn't do it.

Short answer:
No, it's not possible.

Logical follow-on:
So she must find you attractive on some fundamental level.

I personally don't think you should worry, Just enjoy it.

Ha ha @Smithey588

I agree attraction doesn’t have to be physical. But there’s still an attraction to want sex.

And according to the OP they aren’t having sex. She is giving him HJ and BJ. Sounds very… transactional

Men, yes definitely. For men, the situation will be enough to turn them on.

Women, not usually. So yeah there is something about you that she finds attractive I’d say.

I’d be repulsed if I didn’t find him attractive so I doubt many would say yes if at all. Kissing definitely no, Oral sex out of the question. Close my eyes during sex and imagine someone I did find attractive possible but even that I’m not sure .

See I think there’s a difference between finding someone good looking and feeling an attraction. I didn’t find my dp good looking/not my usual type but I was attracted to him. Something about him, his body, the way he spoke, moved. She must be attracted to you in some way. Just enjoy.

Like subsequent posters, I too enjoy having sex with someone I find attractive. That doesn't always mean I find them good looking.

Plus I've also had sex with ONSs that were attractive before midnight and were not attractive in the morning. I still had fun with them before I went home.

Hopefully the OP has now concluded there's an attraction there for this woman, as she keeps going back for more, and that there's a difference between looks and attraction. This woman is clearly enjoying herself with the OP, even if she doesn't find the OP particularly good looking.

There's a difference between being attractive and being good-looking (thank god!).

Attractiveness includes personality, confidence, vibe. Equally, we could all name people who are phenomenally good-looking but just don't do it for us.

Each to his or her own...

Like everyone else said…attractiveness and being conventionally good looking are two different things.

A man’s voice can do it for me 🤷‍♀️

hm so does OP not want him to have sex with her?

yes transactional then, the HJs and BJs - emotional/sexual dynamic needs to be analysed..

oh blimey stop - that's set me off - yes absolutely whose voice is such that I would literally do anything he asked of me

Is it Lesley Phillips?

"Oh I say! Well, hellooooo"

Or is Joey from Friends? 'How you doing?'

There’s a Doctor at my work who has the most beautiful deep but soft Welsh lilt…it literally makes me weak at the knees.

There’s a guy at work with a verrry sexy voice. But because I don’t find him physically attractive I could never go there! I love listening to him talking in the background though!

Phone sex is a thing...

There’s absolutely no way I’d ever be into phone sex (can’t see the point) especially if I don't find the guy physically attractive. Ick

There's no transaction, she split.from boyfriend of 8 years, I've been divorced 3 years, it was my idea to have no sex, she was happy with that,

So we do the whole foreplay thing, and add some fantasies kinks we might have,

I do have a good body, im quite muscley, or maybe she likes my personality?

Just to add i was getting up from the session and said I got to go now...

She was like ooo I was gona finish off in reverse?
I was like ok kool, she sits on my face, and within 1 min she's hj me really hard! I gola admit i didn't enjoy it 😂 did it way too hard!

But I imagine if I was that repulsive too her she had the opportunity too end the session?

So I guess I'll just take the comments on boards and guess, there's other ways she find sme attractive.

I couldn’t, need that sexual attraction to want to rip his clothes off. That’s half the fun, the anticipation.

im trying to think of a situation where I would have sex with a man that I’m not attracted to
..and as cheap as it sounds but if I’m drunk and horny and the guy isn’t my type I don’t think I’d care. The sex better be good though 😂

I hope that you told her that she was being too....vigorous. No-one, man or woman, should be enduring pain during sex without saying so and calling a halt to proceedings (unless that is your particular kink)