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Partner is a bit selfish

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myfriendsfamily · 12/08/2025 14:37

My partner and I have been together for 2 years and are expecting our first baby together next month. I already have a DS (he’s 17) from my previous relationship.

Since hitting my 30’s 5 years ago, my sex drive is almost insatiable. However, DP seems to have suddenly gone from having a high sex drive that matched mine, to never really initiating sex anymore. We used to have sex almost daily, sometimes a few times a day. I understand that this is likely down to the “honeymoon period” but I still crave him just as much.

It’s really making me self-conscious. He still enjoys hand jobs and blow jobs by me, but never returns oral sex. In fact, I would say he doesn’t enjoy giving oral sex at all and will avoid it at all costs. When he does do it, he’s very impatient and starts to get noticeably irritated which means I can’t finish as I get in my head about it.

I feel undesirable. My body has changed through pregnancy but I wouldn’t say I’ve gained any extra weight. I am 100% confident he isn’t participating in porn use or cheating!

I just don’t quite know how to navigate this.

If anyone has any advice, I’d be grateful.

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Secondstart1001 · 12/08/2025 14:43

If he doesn’t enjoy doing oral I wouldn’t want him to do it. Regardless of if you give him a bj, he simply doesn’t like giving. Is there anything else he could do for you to make up for it?

PhuckTrump · 12/08/2025 16:06

He should absolutely not be asking you to do something that he isn’t prepared to reciprocate.

Gymbunny2025 · 12/08/2025 16:21

Could it just be because you are pregnant though? Even if you’ve not gained any weight your body will have changed massively. Give him time?

myfriendsfamily · 12/08/2025 19:42

Gymbunny2025 · 12/08/2025 16:21

Could it just be because you are pregnant though? Even if you’ve not gained any weight your body will have changed massively. Give him time?

Possibly. He has been quite anxious throughout and I can tell he is quite self-aware when we do have sex as he worries he is resting on my stomach etc.

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SparklyGlitterballs · 12/08/2025 19:48

Some men are weird about having sex during their partner's pregnancy. They're afraid they'll somehow hurt the baby, or they may have a fixation about having sex when the baby is right there, in front of them. Many of them probably don't understand biology and that the baby is safely enclosed in a sealed womb and not watching them perform. Hopefully he'll be better once the baby has been born.

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