My mother doesn't understand my asexuality

[paige8039]

Im 34, I've never had a boyfriend or girlfriend, I'm still at virgin, I don't like the idea of sex or relationships, I'm quite happy being alone. My mother worries I will be alone and depressed later in life.

We all want our children to be happy. That's all parents really care about. And if we have gained the most happiness and fulfilment in our lives from our relationships, we assume that will be the case for our children. Sometimes we're just wrong because our children want different things from their lives than we wanted from our own.

2 of my children have never had relationships and I worry about their happiness, both now and in the future. I worry because I love them but also because I still have that feeling that most parents have; that I know better than them! As they have grown into adults (well, before that really) they have demonstrated frequently that this isn't true very often

That really is sad. Having fun sexually is honestly my favorite thing to do! It gives life purpose. Reaching orgasm with a partner gives the most rewarding satisfaction possible! You really need to try getting comfortable with someone and just letting go one day.

You do you and fuck everyone else. Including mum. Worried about being alone in the future is just an imagined thought and not fact! No one knows what the future holds.

I’m not going to pretend l understand asexuality, from early teens my hormones were bubbling. But has something happened to make you feel this way? Is it a case that your mother could be right?

To me it sounds a bit like a “l’ve never done it because l don’t like it” type situation. It goes beyond sex, but touch and being held too.

By all means you do you OP, but your posting here suggests that maybe you are questioning it too?

Same for me but we're not all the same. If OP doesn't like sex, imagine how soul destroying it would be to do that and absolutely hate it. We're respectful and understanding when people say they are gay, straight, bi, whatever... So why not asexual? I can think of a few people I know directly who are asexual. Some in sexless relationships, others that have never had relationships. Edited because I failed to quote Lobster.

Unless you are an aunt, perhaps your mother is upset that she may not become a grandmother?