How to talk to him about my insecurity?

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Hey my issue here is that I am very petite size 6 but after having 2 babies my stomach is saggy. I am so self conscious over it. I want to mention it to this guy im dating before he sees it - just as a little pre warning as I don’t want it to put him off during the deed. How would you go about bringing it up? I don’t want to act all insecure about it to him as I want him to see me as confident & sexy but I’m not sure how else to bring it up unless I state it’s an insecurity. Any help please? Thank you xx

Please don’t tell him! Tbh I don’t think he will notice - your body shouldn’t come with a warning label! You may be creating an issue where there isn’t one on his side. I’m not invalidating how you feel though, it’s how you feel about your body image. Longer term and for your own confidence have you tried certain daily exercises and firming cream to help with the sagging tummy?

I'm not sure there's anything to gain from telling him. If you do, you're going to make it harder for him to not pay attention to what youve told him about - it's called target fixation. And I doubt him knowing will make you feel any less apprehensive, as you'll still be waiting for his reaction.
You'd do better to focus your attention on the love handles and moobs he's not comfortable with. (Actually, probably better you don't. 🤣)

I agree with PP's. I know it feels like highlighting it might be helpful, but in reality if he's into you then he'll be into your body, including your stomach. If he is put off by a real woman's body then he's not good enough for you anyway!
I'm in the best shape I've ever been in but I still can't fix my saggy tummy with all my workouts and strength training. It's not easy, but I'm getting better at accepting that it's part of me. No man has ever commented on it. In fact, one told me to stop sucking it in whenever he looked at me 😂
I hope you can enjoy your time with your new guy and feel good about yourself. Xxx

Thank you so much guys I’m gonna leave it then.. I didn’t want to make it into a big deal so maybe it’s for the best. Wish me luck lol!!

I would echo the above. Don't point it out before hand for the reasons given, and also if he is anywhere near half decent, he won't notice or care! 99% of men will have their own bodily hang ups that they won't want to point out to a woman they are having sex with.

Best of luck for your first time with him!

If it really bothers you and it's genuinely holding you back, tell him. The most likely scenario is that he'll say he's not bothered, he fancies you regardless and your mind will be put at rest. Most people don't have totally flawless bodies and most people don't care if their partner isn't perfect.

I would say just love yourself for who you are, at size 6 you will be the envy of many people so please just love yourself. As a complete separate side thought, by the time your with a guy about to DTD he will not be doing anything but thinking about DTD so enjoy ☺️