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Life and sex after death

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ThatSouthernGuy · 22/07/2025 10:53

I lost my wife last year suddenly, after a massive heart attack she never regained consciousness and died seven days latter. We had been together for 51 years. Winter was cold and lonely, so I made the conscious decision to find a female friend. In my early 70’s I was not ready to be single.
I paid the fees and joined several dating sites. It’s interesting that when I was honest about my age I got very few hits, however when I dropped my age by 10 years the hits shot up. I met several ladies and eventually my current partner appeared. She was a whirlwind. We liked each other and enjoyed each others company. Eventually we ended up in bed it was wonderful to have sex again. Every opportunity we had we ended up in bed having sex, PIV, oral, toys we couldn’t get enough of each other. She had lost her husband in 2020 to Covid and had resigned herself to a life of celibacy until I came along. When she asked my age I told her and she just said it was a number and that I was not like a 70+ man.
Now, the reason behind behind my thread are as follows;
I have read many times on Mumsnet about ladies and men in love and sexless relationships. Ladies and gents don’t give up on finding such a relationship, if you take the time you will find a partner who you can enjoy.
Sex toys are great, my partner has admitted that she has more intense and enjoyable orgasms using them. She has admitted that before toys and me appeared sex was something couples did for procreation.
Better sex comes with age and experience.
If it takes your fancy oral sex is wonderful, my partner has climaxed many times with my tongue.
Ladies if you are looking for a partner don’t be age specific. You don’t know what you may miss. I’m ten years older than my partner and we have a great sex life. 4+ times a week is not out the norm. She has admitted if she known my real age at the beginning she would not have contacted me.
The moral to this thread is you are never too old to be adventurous. I would like to read what other members think.

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MsDDxx · 22/07/2025 14:44

I hear what you’re saying but I’m in my early 40s and wouldn’t go 10 years either side. It makes the life stages just too different (especially in advancing years). It’s not all about sex, which yes age probably doesn’t make too much difference as long as all consenting adults.

For everything else you need to be on similar pages and that includes a similar age, give or take 10 years.

ThatSouthernGuy · 22/07/2025 16:11

@MsDDxx Yes I understand what you say, but at least you are not confining yourself to somebody within a couple of years of your age. My wife was 14 months younger than me we had a good life together. I am not advocating 40 and 70 somethings getting together I understand the age gap issue, neither was it all about sex. From my experience you should have an open mind. Thanks for your thoughtful response.

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MsDDxx · 22/07/2025 17:27

ThatSouthernGuy · 22/07/2025 16:11

@MsDDxx Yes I understand what you say, but at least you are not confining yourself to somebody within a couple of years of your age. My wife was 14 months younger than me we had a good life together. I am not advocating 40 and 70 somethings getting together I understand the age gap issue, neither was it all about sex. From my experience you should have an open mind. Thanks for your thoughtful response.

Sorry I wasn’t implying you were implying it was all about sex; apologies if I gave that impression.

ThatSouthernGuy · 22/07/2025 18:43

@MsDDxx don’t be sorry. Your response and perspective was what I’m interested in.

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