ONS said “I love you”

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Recently came out of a 2 year relationship, been finding the break up hard and having the first child free night in what feels like forever I decided to go out last night. There I bumped into an old friend, we shared a drunken kiss around 10 years ago but that’s all it ever was. Anyway, we ended up kissing last night one thing led to another and I ended up back at his place, we had sex a few times then as I was waiting for my taxi home he told me he loved me, that he has done for years and before I could really say anything my taxi arrived. I don’t have any feelings towards him and I know I’m not in the right mind frame for anything serious right now. If I knew how he felt I wouldn’t have ever done it and I’m now regretting it massively. I don’t know how to tell him without hurting him but at the same time I don’t want him to think it’s going to lead somewhere. What do I do?

That’s such a sensitive situation isn’t it?
As a M, I’d have to acknowledge the alcohol loosened my tongue and even if those were my true feelings, my timing was lousy. I hope he puts his hands up and accepts it was pretty in appropriate.
Having said that, if I was him, I’d also want you to put me straight asap. Tell him you don’t, and never have felt the same way and that you just can’t see yourself developing romantic feelings for him.
It’ll be a tough pill to swallow for him, but, said with kindness, it’s probably the best medicine.
Thats this blokes perspective anyway….

@Maccar305 I was hoping it was just the alcohol talking but unfortunately it wasn’t. I do need to put it straight I just don’t want to hurt him, but at the same time I don’t want to lead him on.

I wonder if you could explain that you are not ready for any relationship as it is too soon after you broke up and you have to consider your child.

That is a gentle way of saying no

It's impossible not to hurt someone when they love you and those feelings aren't mutual.
The hurt is there. That's inevitable. The faster you do it, the faster he can start healing. Pain is part of life. Trying to avoid the pain usually only makes things worse.