FWB situation

[Fwbsituation]

I have been seeing a guy as a FWB arrangement for a year and a half. He is in an open relationship and his partner knows about me, he also sees others with his partner. I started to feel like I was just another partner he sees and it wasn’t making me feel great, I’m the only woman he meets solo, so I decided I didn’t want that arrangement anymore.
I asked if we can continue seeing each other socially, without the sex part, as he’s a great guy and I really enjoy talking to him and just being around him. He has now said he’s not sure whether he wants to continue to see me socially, as he lives in a different city and it’s hard for us to find the time to see each other as it is and if it’s no longer non-sexual, we don’t need to keep a connection going.
It feels like I was just someone to have sex with and he didn’t value me as a person. I spoke to a friend who said FWB arrangements aren’t meant to be serious and there was no need for us to continue seeing each other, but a huge part of our arrangement was about friendship too, I feel so confused.

You told him that you no longer want to be in a sexual relationship, but that you still value his friendship and would like to continue to meet up as friends. He told you that this doesn’t work for him.

Sounds like he viewed you as a FB, not a FWB.

Sounds to me like you were really in an open relationship with him and he was really with you as a fuck-budy. Both of which are fine, but not necessarily compatible. If the dynamic doesn't work for you, it doesn't work for him, and visa versa, and to be successful, it has to work for both of you.
Cut your losses, wish him well and move on.

A huge part of our arrangement involved the friends part, we also met without sex being involved, so I’m just confused.
I just don’t feel ready to cut my losses, the thought of not speaking to him again is really difficult.

@Fwbsituation It feels like I was just someone to have sex with and he didn’t value me as a person. I spoke to a friend who said FWB arrangements aren’t meant to be serious and there was no need for us to continue seeing each other, but a huge part of our arrangement was about friendship too, I feel so confused.

You were just someone to have sex with. The friendship part obviously wasn't important for him.

I agree with this. He has a relationship (with his wife). He’s just looking for women to have sex with. In order to get this men normally have to at least invest in friendship too.

A huge part of our arrangement involved the friends part, we also met without sex being involved, so I’m just confused.

Yes, but he still knew that at some point sex was on the cards - maybe not at that very moment, but at some point. Now you're taking sex off the table he's not interested.