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Lookingatoptions · 07/07/2025 19:22

My sex drive is through the roof. I've had a few one night stands over the last few months. Just recently I met a younger man who satisfies my needs. I don't want to come off as desperate, but I would like to see him again. He's a nice guy and is also my type physically.
What are my options? Please don't tell me today buy a vibrator or use my hand!

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Gymbunny2025 · 07/07/2025 19:29

there was a very similar post on the relationship board the other day- not sure if it was you? The OP early 40s had a ONS with a guy in his 20s then he didn’t get in touch afterwards.

I guess your option is to message him? What have you got to lose?!

if he turns you down or ghosts you then keep looking! Good luck

JoyousMaker · 07/07/2025 19:33

Agree with @Gymbunny2025 , what's the down side of seeing this guy again?

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Lookingatoptions · 07/07/2025 20:06

JoyousMaker · 07/07/2025 19:33

Agree with @Gymbunny2025 , what's the down side of seeing this guy again?

There's no downside, from what I can see. I just don't want to come off as some desperado.

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Gymbunny2025 · 07/07/2025 20:30

You can’t control what he (or anyone!) thinks of you. Only what you think of yourself ☺️

NPET · 07/07/2025 23:42

Contact him! I would do. I can't be f∆¢ked with "niceties" like waiting for them to contact me.
They always do or say they always will but it's better to be in first and get what YOU want.
If he wants you (which he will), you don't appear desperate - you just appear better organised than he is!

StarlightLady · 08/07/2025 06:59

This is simple. Get in touch with him now. Actually, it might be a bit early, give it an hour or so. Arrange to meet him. Go to bed with him. Repeat.

Keep control of your emotions. Lose control of any inhibitions snd follow advice of @NPET above. Life is too short to do otherwise.

IHE · 08/07/2025 07:35

I was in a similar relationship (me 20s, her 40s / me single, her unhappily married and sleeping with at least one other (older/richer) man) a very long time ago. She made the first move - I was surprised, but I certainly didn't see her as desperate. She had the experience, I had the enegy, we both had the enthusiasm and it lasted over a year.
Give him a call. There's a good chance he'll be delighted.

Reidwood · 08/07/2025 11:24

Why stop a good thing, he clearly enjoys your company, mutual pleasures so keep having fun

Reidwood · 08/07/2025 11:27

@Lookingatoptions I have enjoyed encounters with ladies older than me, our libidos matched and it was immensely pleasurable for both, we met at convenient times for both, some were short quickies , others longer, weekends away etc…as long as both of you are happy then I see no reason to stop!good luck ✊🏿

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Lookingatoptions · 09/07/2025 20:20

Still haven't done anything! What do I message? Or should I just add him on SM?

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Gymbunny2025 · 09/07/2025 20:38

One of your friends needs to stage an intervention!! Honestly he’s just a human man 😂 who cares if he thinks you’re desperate or ignores you. If you want to message him just do it.

hey x how’s your week going? I was just remembering the fun we had the other night. I’m going to x this weekend fancy joining me?

type send and forget!

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Lookingatoptions · 09/07/2025 21:05

I'm turning into a proper nymphomaniac. I just need to get a grip. FFS

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IHE · 09/07/2025 22:39

Lookingatoptions · 09/07/2025 21:05

I'm turning into a proper nymphomaniac. I just need to get a grip. FFS

Get a grip? On what?!!! 🤪🤛🍆
Sorry ... I got vicariously carried away.

Send him a text asking if he'd like to meet at a bar near your house on Fri or Sat. If he's really into you, he'll cancel any weekend plans, or have a plausible excuse.
Just make sure to change the sheets and have a maxi box of condoms by the bed.

(And have a back-up plan with the girls, just in case.)

Reidwood · 10/07/2025 09:58

@Lookingatoptions you are woman in her prime with a healthy sexual appetite , so go for it I say👍🏿

Gymbunny2025 · 12/07/2025 18:52

Any updates OP? Were you brave?!

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Lookingatoptions · 13/07/2025 19:30

No, I haven't been brave 😖 I keep fantasising about him. We were acquainted before the ONS. I think I fancy him more than for dtd, though I am extremely horny and I fear for my sanity 😅

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ruffler45 · 13/07/2025 21:46

I am sure there are 100s of MNers on here who would grab your phone and send the message on your behalf.😀

Just do it what is there to lose?

Angela59 · 16/07/2025 06:09

I get it, on the couple of occasions I’ve found a guy that “rocks my boat” so to speak I’ve concentrated on what they like to do and attempted to expand on that, that seems to focus their attention.
Obviously first if all you’ve got to reconnect and I’d just be honest, in fact be more than honest inflate he’s ego a little and tell him how wonderful he was and that you’d like to do it again sometime.
A reassurance of confidentiality might also assist

Good luck x

SportGirl · 16/07/2025 16:59

Yeah I know what you mean by having a high sex drive, at times I was at a point where I thought something was wrong with me since I always wanted it

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