I'm late 50s.
I had a 20 year marriage until he cheated.
I'm very content alone and was single for 4 years post marriage.
But I prefer companionship.
And I enjoy penetrative sex with someone I care about.
I've been seeing a man for 18 months.
Companion wise, he's everything I want, and more.
Sex wise, he's good (but not great) at foreplay. He has occasional ED. He's had all the tests going, and it's an age thing. Viagra sporadically works. When he can maintain an erection, penetrative sex only lasts up to 3 minutes.
The two times I've gently raised this issue knocked him, and meant he didn't relax enough to get an erection for months after.
Everything else about us works so well, but I'm frustrated with our sex life. I love being pounded into the bed. My current guy has never been able to do that.
The (older) man I was seeing for 2 years before the current one could go for hours in bed. It was amazing. We'd often get out of bed at 3pm on a Sunday after waking at 8am. So I know it's not an age thing. Fwiw, that ended because he cheated too.
I could ditch the current man and try to find someone else. But I love him. We work brilliantly in every way except the bedroom. And at this point in life, it feels like too much effort to try to replace him. Plus I'm not sure I want to. I adore him and he adores me.
There's no telling if I'll find a guy who treats me as well as my current man does AND can fuck me for hours. Having him in my life is more fun than my single life. But it's not 100% the dream.
Would you stick or twist?