I’m in my early 50s, just turning menopausal.
Through my life I’ve felt confident about my body and enjoyed sex.
But now my body is changing it’s harder to feel sexy.
My DH and I have fun in bed on the rare occasions we get together, but after so many years together I don’t feel attracted to him, and with my own body turning saggy, I don’t understand why he’d be attracted to me.
At this time in my life there are various options I’m considering including trying harder at sex with DH, discussing introducing a third person to our bed, divorce, or being content to let sex be a thing of the past.
But to fully embrace some of the options above, I need to work out how to shift my belief that sex is for young and beautiful bodies only.
Now my body is no longer fertile, it seems common sense that sex should be left to those who still are, yet there’s some part of me that still has desire and still craves it. But I’m not sure how to embrace that part of me in this new ugly body! Sex was so easy in my lovely young body!
I recently joined a private members pool and think a couple of the men might have been checking me out, I’d like to flirt with them (in a safe, non cheating way), but I’m not sure if I’d be making a fool of myself. I’ve been used to flirting and eyeing up men all my life, but suddenly I feel on shaky ground, I don’t want to be this awful old hag behaving inappropriately!