FH has ED and I never orgasm

[Disabledgeriatricteenmum]

So, my FH and I have sex very regularly, however he has ED. He takes medication, and in the past has been prescribed Cavaject.
So, we tend to have sex quickly before he loses his erection.
I just feel like I need something more than penetration.
He absolutely hates that he suffers with this, and it would crush him if I told him.
He is an amazing partner and daddy and I love him dearly. What do I do?

Tell him to lick you?

EDIT: Apologies for the needless quote, I can't remove it.

Yes, does he enthusiasticly go down on you?

Could you introduce toys?

Longer term you may be able to discuss an open relationship to fulfill you more?

@Disabledgeriatricteenmum , fingers, tongues, toys, blindfolds, cuffs etc….endless ways to explore each others desires, am I right , you’re at a stage where your libido has intensified and simple PIV from DH no leaves you unsatisfied?

I would suggest a conversation with the GP. There are various ways to work around medications. Could be that a medication review will suffice.

Agree re oral, and toys. Does he not offer to bring you to orgasm afterwards? If not then sorry but he might be mortified, but he is being very selfish just ensuring he orgasms and not you. Every sexual partner i’ve had has always ensured I was sorted too, whether it was a quickie or more.

When l was a young teen, sometimes l was slow in speaking up for myself. Mum used to say “you’ve got a tongue in your head use it”.

Clearly this was meant in a totally different context, but l would say the same to your partner.

Thanks guys. Was previously in a controlling and coercive relationship for 20 years so im working on opening my mouth xx