Don’t wish to sound like a total loser or a bloke but I really

[FightingFish]

Need to get seen too. I’m mid 40s divorced with three children (10 - 17). Just lately I’ve been thinking about sex 24/7 and just feel so depressed that there is none available. I haven’t had sex for 3 years and feel like I’m at my height of wanting sex and will miss out before I won’t feel like it anymore.

If you don’t think it’s available then you’re just not looking in the right places.

I hear ya. I mean it's harder arguably for women as we fancy less people than men do generally. Plus we also have to vet them for safety purposes.

Then you've got added issues in that you have kids at home.

Then there's finding someone who cares about your pleasure not just their own.

It's a bastard.
And irritating to no end that people think getting sex is easy for women. Let alone good sex.

I'm 55 and found it incredibly easy to get via Tinder and the like. I had a lot of fun with younger men before I met the guy I'm currently having mind blowing sex with (he's my age).

Fab swingers, it's not all sex parties and weird kinks. You'll get inundated by creeps and weirdos but block and delete to weed those out. Be upfront in your profile as to what you are looking for, one off sex only, fwb, relationship etc. I'm in a similar position with age and younger kids and I'm never without sex when I want it, my DC have zero idea (nor should they!)

It's always available. Just go on a dating site if you want it offered on a plate. But it depends if you mean literally just a shag or a more meaningful encounter. That requires effort. If I wasn't married and I wanted sex I don't think I could do casual like I used to.

If I wasn’t married I would enjoy seducing someone irl personally. Much more fun!! OP isn’t there anyone you have your eye on? I think the eye contact/build up etc is the best bit in many ways. Plus it’s safer if you know them too (not totally safe I appreciate)

sound like a loser or a bloke

None taken. 😁

Don’t wish to sound like a total loser or a bloke

insinuatIng that all men are total losers, very nice, are any of your children boys ?

She's not saying that. She's just acknowledging that men are far more likely to have her current mindset, which is true.

“insinuate” - “suggest or hint (something bad) in an indirect and unpleasant way.”_

poster is insinuating that all men are sex mad losers

I read it as loser OR a bloke, so not saying blokes are losers but yes maybe insinuating that blokes are sex mad. We all interpret things differently.

Good luck OP, hope you find what you’re looking for.

poster is insinuating that all men are sex mad losers - they might not all be losers but they are all sex mad.

Single men (and a lot of married ones) do only want NSA, casual sex. They don't want relationships, they don't want to have to "think" about her or take her feelings into consideration, they don't want to have to show an interest or even pretend to be interested in her beyond her vagina. Men just want to - in their own words - pump and dump.

Any man would jump at the chance to have sex with you OP. Although I suspect, despite what you've written, that having sex just to get "seen to" would leave you feeling a bit shit.

@FightingFish- where have you been looking for sex? Dating apps, through hobbies etc?

Single men (and a lot of married ones) do only want NSA, casual sex.

but surely casual sex is what the OP is asking about 🤷🏻

Right, so she'll have no problem getting it.

She might have to mow his lawn or clean out his gutters to sweeten the deal. She can't expect some bloke to have no strings sex with her unless there's something in it for him.

That's a new one

Yes , I’m sure .

Your posting seemsed to be suggested the men and only men are interested in casual sex- which is demonstrably not true

What ratio of women to men are looking for casual sex? It isn't 50:50. More like 1:999.

You honestly thought that was serious?

It might not be 50:50 , but then again the year is not 1950 either, a reported 40% increase in female infidelity in the last 30 years linked with increasing divorce rates and plunging marriage rates all add up to a changing landscape with more and more single women looking for sex ( and why not ) , just look at this very thread and others in this chat

When I went through my first divorce before my daughter moved in with me I went on a sexual discovery thing.. Met a few women in the bats around Canterbury where I lived at the time. Wasn't one night stands, but the sexual energy was a great way to scratch an itch.

Found out lots about myself but I think you have to put yourself out there. Always sit at the bar and dress nice, and something will happen eventually.

Join a club or fitness class. I met a few at British Military Fitness when that was a thing.

Another shout for the gym (a nice one, not a back st bloke fest). I don't plan on ever needing to find romance there, but it doesn't look too challenging for a single person to get to know someone you have your eye on. I suspect most gym goers (not all of course) probably have a decent sex drive

It’s obvious she meant the sort of men who turn up on boards like this hoping to hear real women talking about sex, and then sending them DMs, as is tiresomely familiar.

Try the Feeld app. Like Tinder but everyone is there for the one thing you're looking for.