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[Zeus007]

hi can someone explain to me . we have a friend who has been accused several times of sexual encounter but his always got away with it but we aren’t sure if he has or hasnt done anything now he must fill out paperwork or be arrested and he has to give 24 hrs notice before sex does this mean his done something as im terrified because if he has we will drop him like a ton of bricks

I think you need a legal board

He has to inform the police 24 hr before he has sex. That can’t be right.

I think that's a sexual risk order. It may not mean he has been convicted of a crime but can mean the police are concerned that they may pose a risk.
That would make total sense if they had been accused several times by different individuals. It ensures that the police are carrying out their duty of care.
If they are a friend, I would be concerned about the allegations alone if they were numerous. It would require a very direct and frank discussion for me.

ok but would it say his commited a crime . we have been told he has asppeger cant spell it

I think committing a crime and being convicted of a crime are 2 very different things. From a quick google 5% of rape cases are prosecuted.

Very interesting about sexual risk orders @Freeflightnever heard of them (and they sound rather impractical?!). Would a new partner be informed of it I wonder?

Who knows? It's not for you to work out if he's committed an offence or not. It's for the police. Either you want to be friends with him or you don't. If you can't get past it, drop him. That's what I would do.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2657574-Having-to-give-police-24-hours-notice-before-sex-is-not-having-less-freedom-than-if-you-were-in-prison

@Zeus007 it might be that the aspergers has given mitigating factors. It doesn't mean a crime has been committed as I think you can be given one without a conviction. But that just means a crime hasn't been proven which as we know with sexual assaults is part of the issue, they are hard to prove.

reply to gymbunny yes he has to tell the police 24 hrs before sex with a partner. the accused against him is children

He’s accused of having sex with children?

apparently all we know he put his hand on a 12 year old girls thign his always around kids and spending money on them amd taking them for days out

@Zeus007 kids have made allegations of sexual assault against him?
I think that with the having to tell the police about any sexual encounters would be enough for me to walk away until there was something concrete to warrant otherwise.

i agree with you

What is making you terrified to drop this ‘friend’? Do you have concerns for your own kids?

I can’t see the dilemma in instantly removing this man from your life?