Stealthing

[Piecelily82]

This is a new term to me. I now understand what it means having seen someone else's thread about it on another board.

My question is, does the following count as stealthing or not: Sex with Dh, married 20 years. Pre-menopausal so there's still a risk of pregnancy. Woman was drunk, Dh had only had 2 drinks. He knew he needed to use a condom, but chose not to. Woman was too drunk to realise at the time.

How would you handle this situation?

What’s “stealthing”?

It's probably best to Google it to get a clear explanation.

If someone is too intoxicated to understand about birth control, they are too intoxicated to consent to sex. Married or not.

I thought stealthing was removing a condom. So, he puts one on then stealthily removes it without consent.

Or pretending to put one on, but never actually putting it on.

This happened to my friend at Uni, she ended up pregnant

While this is not an example of stealthing, there are deeper issues around consent and boundaries here and violation. It also depends on the relationship between the two individuals and what is the acceptable behaviour is such situations.

Ok, so it isn't stealthing. Thanks for confirming. It just feels...wrong.

He absolutely knew of the need to use a condom.

The Morning after pill is only for use prior to ovulation, as far as I know. Is that correct?

Obviously, this relates to me. I'm so angry that he's put me in this situation and, not for the first time. I know, I know, I need to do something about him.

I've never heard of this term before tonight but I sort of wish I didn't know it now!

Don’t get drunk around your husband if he can’t be trusted to use contraception, it’s simple not acceptable, I’m peri too and I can’t image having a baby at this age when I have at least one adult dc! I’ve had to use contraceptive pill twice only because condom split ( both times we were on holiday!). I’ve been on pull now for over a year and doctor shoot for me to continue as said it’s like a low dose of hrt.