Do vibrators desensitise?

[blueleavesgreensky]

I’ve been told they don’t but I do wonder. Surely it’s no different from the male death grip and porn desensitisation.
Anything can be desensitised but especially with regards to physical stimulation. And vibrators or other clit stimulators are so flipping efficient that I feel they have reduced my patience. I’m used to cumming so fast and so easily. Just like anything on a screen device has made people impatient and lose the patience required for less efficient things.

well brass players have to desensitise their lips by regularly playing. When you start your lips get super irritated and tremendously itchy. After regular practice that no longer happens because the nerves have become desensitised.

If you regularly eat spicy food you can desensitise the nerves in your mouth so you can tolerate more and more spice.

so it’s not unreasonable to wonder if regular stimulation of the clitoris could desensitise the nerves

I bought wifey a (smaller) wand 4/5 years ago. The first time took under 30 seconds, now it's a good 10 min plus! Definitely seems to be longer on oral too but hey ho

But maybe that just happens with age? Same with men?

I believe there are two separate things happening here the stimulation of the receptors and the interpretation of that signal within the brain.

@blueleavesgreensky your brass player analogy is a good example of habituation to a stimulus. However now you are aware of some possible changes in your ability to Orgasm there is now also a potential cognitive element happening that could be distracting you in the moment or both.

Adding variety of stimulation with different toys could help any desensitisation/ habituation to stimulus but also relaxing and not over analysing or both may improve your experience .

I found this article quite interesting for both women and men. Maybe some MN research is needed 😳

It hasn’t for me.

I love my toys when a quick, lazy orgasm is called for, but I would take a “man-administered” orgasm any day over any toy.

Yes, the right toy can get you there in seconds, but I find that I don’t feel satisfied like I do when I have had an orgasm through sex with my DH, however fast or intense the orgasm has been through using a toy.

So no, it’s not desensitised me at all. Sometimes my DH suggests using the toys when we have sex but I don’t want them - I want him. Sex with him leaves me on a high you just can’t get from a piece of plastic (in my experience- speaking for myself here).

I completely agree with everything you have written @MsDDxx

Except women are not made of brass. It’s akin to likening walking to travelling by car.

For you maybe not, for others people almost certainly yes - in the same way that some people build up a tolerance to alcohol and it more and more to affect them

It’s odd. The women are all saying it doesn’t. The men are all saying it does 🤔

I definitely wouldn't undermine a woman on the subject 😆I of course wouldn't know personally. I know my wife takes longer but I don't know if that's anything to do with being desensitised. It's probably my mere presence putting her off 🙃

Or maybe she just wants to enjoy you for longer 😉. 10 mins much more fun than 30 seconds after all!!

Wow, really? What would be less gentle? Asking for a friend.

I’m a woman and I’m saying it might have done so. There are other women on here who say the same

Er it’s not the brass trumpet. It’s the lips that become desensitised 🫤 the trumpet doesn’t have feelings
why would a brass instrument become desensitised and why would you have thought that was the point😂

Good post. Thanks

You said in your OP that you orgasm very quickly!

Badly worded l agree. Too much wine with dinner.

Compare things though with scratching an itch. The more you scratch it, the more you need to scratch it. I’ve used vibies regularly since my mid teens (the first one was a secret 15th birthday present from my sister), different sizes and power levels, regular care and attention is still craved in my 40s.

There were women on this thread saying that use has affected them,
maybe it’s affected your eyesight as well 🤷🏻

I’ve heard it can 😂😂

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I'll be honest. I always thought this was a bad porn kind of urban legend about vibrators desensitizing. But in 2010 when I was single I briefly dated a woman who claimed to have what she called "rabbit burnout." She used a really strong silver bullet pocket rocket type clit vibrator and I can vouch for it damn that thing had power.
She claimed it had desensitized her to the point that was the only way she could orgasm. I kind of thought maybe I wasn't doing things how she liked it and she was just trying to be nice to not hurt my feelings. But we dated and slept together for like three months. And I swear I kept trying and trying and asking her to show me what she liked and how she liked it and I could get her real close but no matter what and how I did I could never quite get her trigger to trip over the edge. But damned if when I grabbed that thing and used it if she didn't cum early often and hard.
She claimed she had been like this for a while, overuse I guess.
It hurt my ego a little bit at first but i finally gave into it and went with what worked. At least it wasn't another person that was getting her off and not me, it was a tool I could control and still be a part of satisfying her. So I got into it and it wasn't like a problem and wasn't the reason we broke up.
I never encountered anybody before or since so I think it is an extreme rarity and probably stopping use for a little while might re sensitize, but I think now it is technically possible and not an urban legend.

With the uber efficient you yes. But it’s harder to orgasm by hands or mouth now

I stopped using toys many years ago due to their impairment of my ability to orgasm.

More recently I realised that too much clitoral stimulation of any kind impairs my ability to come piv so I don’t masturbate any more either. I much prefer a vaginal orgasm to a clitoral one - maybe leas intense but much more satisfying.

I don’t know if it is age or anatomy related but we are all different I suppose.