Newly single possible fwb situation

[Shalalalalaohbaby]

I’ve name changed for this one. So as the title says I am fairly newly single. Recently I’ve got back in contact with a lovely man from many years ago. We were both in serious relationships at the time we knew each other but I always liked him and he says he was also attracted to me. He is also single now and we’ve been chatting. The conversation got round to sex or lack of it. He’s very open in that he hasn’t had sex for a long time as he does not want a relationship. I am very attracted to him, I know him so I know he’s not some crazy person. We keep messaging and I honestly just want to say can I come round but now I’m thinking that’s too forward and surely he would ask me if he was genuinely interested. Also do people literally just meet up with their fwb have sex and leave. I’m aware that everyone’s situation is different but I am clueless as I’ve been in a long relationship. Just any advice or any similar situations will help.

Honestly if you find him attractive and like him, and you have both spoken about the lack of sex in your lives then I’m sure he would be open to it if you asked. Just be straight to the point so there are no crossed wires. If he says no, then he says no, but I just think life is too short, he is someone you know is a nice person, so no danger there. Just make it clear if you do that you want it to stay casual, unless things change. I have had a fwb before and it was a positive experience

Why don’t you ask him out for a drink?

I think we are both out separately over the bank holiday but I think I’ll do that. I just know I’m not ready for a relationship but I do miss sex and he is hot!🥵

There is no problem with you making the first move, he probably will be very keen to end up in bed with you after going without sex for a long time. Invite him around for a glass of wine, that should make things easier.🍷💐🍷

@Shalalalalaohbaby you certainly should find no problem if you make the first move. Neither of you are naive teenagers I think. I would suggest that to be sure about your confidence you meet him on at least one date where you spend time talking face to face.
I have been chatting on PMs with a woman who has made the step (leap) that you are planning. She is over the moon now because her life has changed for the better. She is adamant that she does not want a new long term relationship. Just an FWB.

Well I’ve text him and we are going to arrange drinks, I’m out for bank holiday drinks with friends tomorrow I’ll have to refrain from booty calling him 😜

If you greet him naked at the door he should get the idea. I hope.

😂😂

Just thought id update and currently in a fwb situation with said man and wow. Absolutely amazing sex, good chat in between meeting up. Definitely what I need at this point in my life!

@Shalalalalaohbaby congratulations!!

I’m so happy for you. Well done for being brave!

@Shalalalalaohbaby
Great! Sounds like it’s worked out for you both. How often do you meet him?

So at least once a week for the last month (took a while to get started) but we message daily. Messages are rude and flirty but when we see each other we actually have deep conversations. I’m enjoying it.

Amazing!!