Want to surprise him without condoms

[Aquarius87]

My partner and I have been together 2 years and have always used condoms. He's only ever had 1 serious relationship before this and tells me that he used condoms throughout that one too.
I've used the pill previously in last relationship.
Partner has recently said he'd love to know how it feels without condoms (has never tried it), and I'd quite like to stop using them too.
I was thinking of going on the pill. Can I get this over the counter these days, or would I need GP appointment?
Also, when I'm sorted with the pill, how would be a nice way to tell partner that he doesn't need to use condoms any more?

You can buy it through pharmacies online or get it for free via GP.

Get them via a pharmacy, and I guess you could just tell him before you have sex?

I’m going to be a bit boring here. I don’t think this is a “nice surprise” moment, it’s more of a discussion/opportunity for both of you to give informed consent. Changing the contraceptive and disease transmission potential in your relationship is something to agree on rather than one of you to just do.

Obviously it can be a very special bonding moment, signify a step forward in commitment in it’s own right.

Happy dodging the wet patch!

I think this is a very valid point.

Another thing for you to consider OP, is whether or not hormonal contraception will continue to suit you, you don’t mention your age, but the pill can cause havoc.

Surprise him when you next have sex and chuck the condoms in the bin!

Just watch - that might freak him out thinking you are wanting to get pregnant! Make sure he knows you have gone on the pill and discuss your sexual health beforehand (if you haven't already). But hope you both enjoy anyhow, condoms are an awful necessity sadly.

Exactly what I was thinking 😂 definitely needs discussion beforehand!

also if you are considering pregnancy in the nearish future I’d stick with condoms for now. Hormonal contraceptives can take months to fly leave your system ime

Discuss it with him beforehand. And go on the pill only if it will benefit you more than him. It's your body that will be dealing with any potential side effects of hormones. Make an appointment with your GP, not every type of pill is suitable for all. Personally I've never been on the pill and just used condoms when I wasn't trying to conceive ( I'm now sterilised so don't use condoms).

OP you say you have used the pill previously. Did you change because of 'side-effects' or problems?
If you do not warn him the extra sensitivity could be a lovely surprise for him as he feels the strength of your internal muscles. My DH told me he felt so much more aware. But I did work at it.

Word of warning - I was on the pill briefly and it destroyed my sex drive, which entirely negated the need for it 😂.

I came off them because it wasn’t worth the drop in interest.

We decided to try withdrawal method, which worked for us but I won’t recommend it because it’s quite risky. We were in a very committed relationship however and if I had ended up pregnant it wouldn’t have been a complete disaster. He would occasionally finish inside if I was within a week of my very predictable period. As I say, we didn’t mind the risk too much. This worked for us for many years.

I get this. I was on the pill from around 15, by 23 or so it was really disagreeing with me, including bad head aches.