Since kids, sex makes me cringe...

[littlepurplerose]

I used to love sex. Had a really sensual and sexy side to me. Me and partner never had loads but when we did, it was great.

Fast forward to now. 2 kids- toddler and baby- and it's like... that part of me is ...gone.

Not only do I have low libido, the thought of being in any way naughty or intimate just seriously weirds me out and makes me cringe.

I even tried watching a bit of porn but it just made me feel sick. All the moaning - ughh ick. I used to love it!!

What has happened? Will I get it back?

I'm still breastfeeding not sure if there's a hormone related issue here....

Tell me your stories... did this happen to you and did it come back?

Yes it happened to me. I think it’s really normal. I actually didn’t realise that some women aren’t affected like this until coming on mumsnet! It will come back when you and your body are ready do t worry ☺️

Thankyou, I hope so!!

How old is baby? Definitely felt like this for a time when I was BF, overwhelmed, doing it all at home and childcare, felt fairly touched out. BF came to an end and a difficult stage with baby passed. I'd say it was a combination of all of the above but firmly back on track now.

Breastfeeding totally killed my libido (I’m similarly affected by the pill). It came back just as strong as before if not stronger each time I stopped. I think it’s very hard to get libido back if the hormones aren’t there to support it.

It's not uncommon, I remember talking to my friends about this back when we were all breastfeeding. Several of them said similar things to what you've said.

It didn't affect me that way - I felt very tired of course, and frumpy, and like a cow... Yep all that but I also felt sort of womanly and very female, proud of my body! Do you think perhaps you could try to see yourself in that light?

I loved breastfeeding. And also the massive boobs I got (temporarily!) for me I think it was more the exhaustion and being touched out. My libido returned while I was breastfeeding both times.