Cuckold

[Sam820]

Jus wondering....have you considered/done it? We've started discussing it and I like the idea.

Maybe the sex board here isn’t for you! Said kindly.

(Yes, I’m a mother. One who also likes sex 😱)

Mumsnet is just a brand name it is not exclusive to women. Its for all who are parents to share experiences in whatever subject they wish. The OP has asked a genuine question which relates to modern day life. You are trying to restrict free speech by posting abusive replies to posts that dont conform to your beliefs. You ask why this poster is browsing the Sex forum. We could all ask why, if your moral compass is so strict, you are here taking an interest in other peoples sex lives and preferences?

I am not limiting anyone's free speech, I am simply exercising my own right to it. My right to free speech includes calling out and mocking people for their behaviour. I am sorry if this has hurt your feelings.

I have explained why I object to these threads on here because they are 99% porn fueled male fantasies and I suspect they get a kick out of talking about it on (sorry to break it to you) a predominantly female platform.

I think it is demeaning and objectifying of women. Like wolf whistling, like smutty jokes in male dominated workplaces, I am happy to call it out whenever I see it. All the best

Personally I feel you are wrong about about it being 99% porn fuelled male fantasy. The world is a much more liberated place where women are more in control of their sexual adventures. If this does not conform to your views then that is fine. I think most people would respect you for having the conviction to stand by your principles. All you need to say is "personally I dont agree" and walk away from a subject that you dont agree with. (There is still the question why if your not interested you clicked on the post anyway?). What is the unacceptable part is that you aggressively reply to people who are genuinely replying to the OP in entice an argument.

You admit to calling out and mocking people for their behaviour! This is basically bullying or trolling as they call it online. "the practice of deliberately posting inflammatory, irrelevant, or offensive comments or other disruptive content online, with the intention of antagonizing others or causing a negative reaction"

Again if you dont agree and it offends you so much walk away and allow others to speak freely and share their experiences without being "mocked"

It's the equivalent of the Ricky Gervias "Guitar Lessons' joke - if it's not for you then walk away. Although Shakespeare did have a turn of phrase that I think is relevant - The lady doth protest too much, methinks"

I'm not stopping you talk about your male fantasy with other male fantasists. Carry on, don't let me bother you.

I'm not going to walk away, I'd rather just watch, eyes-rolling as you and the other blokes share their sexual fantasies with each other.

Do you tell your mates that you post your fantasies on the sex threads on mumsnet?

You are still here? You have no evidence to suggest I am a male! For your information,(not that we should have to prove it, we are a non-magnonomous couple

I think it’s a real shame that a lot of women on mumsnet are put off the sex board because it’s full of men and a lot of the posts are weird and definitely not what most women would be interested in discussing in terms of sex. And there’s a lot of men (and couples?!) who use this as a way to initiate sex chats and also meets. Again very offputting to normal women

Also a shame that any thread that isn't about vanilla sex gets attacked by trolls who think that anyone who enjoys anything other than vanilla needs to be shamed for it. Blows my mind.

Looking at your posting history- you have started and posted on a lot of these types of threads. And even said your specialist subject is cuckholding. So it’s no surprise really you feel that way about ‘vanilla sex’ is it 😂

Feel what way? I've got nothing against vanilla sex or any other kinks/fantasies. I don't go around vanilla threads preaching that people should explore other things. I accept that different people enjoy different things, if I have nothing positive or interesting to contribute, I won't.

I understand. You just want to talk about your specialist subject… on mumsnet.

but I hope you understand that some (not all) women don’t like to see post after post about mens fetishes. Populated by men. FWIW I do normally ignore 🤷‍♀️ I was just commenting on this aspect. Men enjoy talking about sex with women. So women get pushed out.

I’ve no idea why you brought vanilla sex into it though? How would you even define that?!

It would make for a stormy relationship where the wife/girlfriend plans sexual encounters with others. It might be an erotic fantasy, but as soon as you have to plan something the eroticism begins to evaporate.

I didn't cuckold but I know its a turn on for my hubby, the reason I know is that a stranger danced with me, both me and hubby had consumed a not to insignificant amount, on the dance floor the stranger hands moved around me in a friendly manner you might say, after that I danced with my husband and he was stiff, so I knew it had an effect.

Back in the room I asked him was he upset about the stranger, he said nothing for a few moments, I could almost hear him thinking and then then pounced on me, I knew he would.

After it was over I said can I now assume that my dance floor adventure turned you on and all he said was, I don't want to talk about it and then went to sleep. let sleeping dogs lie I thought.

The unplanned excursion on the dance floor was erotic but if we had to plan something like cuckolding or hotwifing do, that wouldn't be erotic, somehow there is a difference about spontaneous and planned sex.