I’m so unbothered

[zionma]

My son, my first child, is 20 months now. And since then sex just really isn’t on my radar. I’m literally not fussed. I could take it or leave it. But I know it’s not what my husband wants, he’s not pushy at all and is very patient. He never makes me feel bad about it. But I have to force myself to do it at times because I’m concerned I’ve lost all libido! Has anyone else felt the same?

Oh yes definitely. I think for me the combination of exhaustion, feeling touched out, bed sharing, breastfeeding, working etc completely killed my libido for a while. Had no desire even to self pleasure (and when I tried I couldn’t orgasm). All came back gradually- having time to myself (I went to the gym!) really helped too

Old father of two here.

This is common so don't worry or over think it. You'll be tired and distracted. It's great that your husband is relaxed. It will come back as you start to have more time and are less tired. Meantime keep talking to your husband so he knows how you are feeling. Try to make time for yourself and time to be with your husband - just doing stuff not necessarily in bed.

Try to avoid letting the youngster share your bed - that just creates issues in the future and delays the return to intimacy.

Is your husband pulling his weight around the house? If not try to get him to do a bit more and you use that time for yourself. You'll find that allows you start to think more about couple time.

Exercise is good. It relaxes and can help boost the libido.

Noooo… bed sharing can allow sleep. The most important thing to function 😂