Advice needed - sexting no judgement please

[beautyan]

I joined an online dating site fun group as I’m feeling lonely and curious about my sexuality, I’ve been chatting to both men and women and one women started to chat to me had profile photos of the same person sent me photos of that person.. her profile said 23 bi girl wanting fun with an older mature women. Anyway we exchanged intimate photos as our chat got abit heated and moved to telegram usernames only.. she sent me a full body shot and her face was in the photo which looked like the same women in the profile photos, we carried on with sexy chat, finished said night.
next day I notice her profile had gone from the site and checked telegram to which her name had changed to another females name and also her username! I closed my account on the site and made a new one to see if I could find her but couldn’t, I then searched the name of the telegram name to then find another women’s profile which was new with another load of photos, I had a message from them saying Hi so I just engaged in conversation hi how are you ect with them not knowing I’d spoke previous, I asked if they had telegram so we can chat there and they sent me their name which was the name of the new username on telegram this person had changed it too.. I didn’t add them but carries on talking on the site asked normal questions which then they sent me a photo of her with her bits showing.. this new profile was a completely different women not the one I had spoken to previous an then today this profile has been deleted!! I mean I’m confused what does this mean?! Have I been scammed? I mean this is an adult site for people to have fun, meet ect I’ve also had some fun with men on here… now I’m thinking is this some weirdo? Are they praying on others for photos to keep repeating this? Are they lying about their age?
im going insane 😢

It’s potentially someone posing as someone else (perhaps even a man posing as a woman) so perhaps been scammed in that sense. It sounds likely to me that this is the case. I can’t see many women doing this but I I’m sure there are exceptions out there.

I would put it behind you, and just maybe chat for a bit longer before swapping photos.

And NEVER send sexual photos showing your face!

It’s very easy to lie to someone online.

Just be careful and do not take anything at face value. Always keep your guard up and expect the worst. You’ll find genuine people out there, but it takes some work to weed them out from the rubbish.

Thanks for your reply I mean I don’t no why I was so stupid but they seemed genuine as their photos were all of the same women even the naked one, I feel so embarrassed and stupid I don’t no what I was thinking just went with the moment..

I’ve been there 😂.

Don’t feel stupid, just try to put it behind you and I’m sure you’ll find someone else who won’t do this to you. It’s a horrible feeling though, I know, and it really does make you very cynical.

@SCWSI feel so worthless now I have all sorts going through my head.. what if they get sent around, what if this person was younger than they said, what if they use my photos to do the same 😭

I used to do this a lot in the past but people are often not who they say they are on online. I found that out actually because someone was using fake pics of me ( not explicit) but they were taken from one of my social media accounts and used on a profile on a dating site. It always worried me also that you could be chatting to someone you know in real life or even someone underage. You have to be so careful. I think if you're not 100% of who you're talking to it's not worth it.

How do you get over this awful feeling of what ifs I’ve had a stress headache for a few days and constant looking for advice I feel so drained

There's nothing you can do really. You didn't do anything malicious and it's not your fault that someone was probably not genuine, just be careful in future. x

On telegram when you delete a chat with someone it deletes the whole thing mine had no chat on so this is what they must of done… do you think they know what they are doing? As to do this to people

Sadly it sounds like a man posing as a woman to get cheap thrills/pics. It sucks but it's a lesson learned and I'd advise just putting it behind you and moving on. You could report the profiles to the site but in all likelihood they will just set up a new account.

In future chats keep your guard up a little and if you send pics don't show your face or any identifying tattoo's etc, just cover with an emoji. Once you've met them in person and know they are who they say they are on their profile then you can relax a little but until then just have fun but at the level no-one could identify you if the pic was passed around.

Don't let one creep put you off, you enjoyed the chat and exploration before it became clear they sadly weren't genuine but now your guard is up so don't let that creep spoil your fun!

The telegram I mentioned has changed names yet again!

No need to feel stupid. At least you haven't shared bank account details or sent them money! As the old cartoon says, 'On the internet nobody knows you're a dog'. As others have pointed out, it's easy to create profiles using other people's pictures you've found online. I think some people just like getting the attention or creating a reaction and then back off before anybody realises that in fact they're a middle aged man with a raincoat problem. Yes, it's probably a man, but I had a couple of (female) friends as a a teenager who used to do this sort of thing for fun. I thought it was rather unfair because some of the people they'd got involved with online seemed to have become very fond of them before being dumped and/or 'ghosted'. Though we didn't call it ghosting 20 years ago.

I would only ever ‘sext’ with someone I was having/planning sex with. If it’s someone you have never met I think it’s safest to imagine them in a dodgy bedsit looking like Rab C Nesbitt (no idea why he came to mind 😂😂 never even watched it!). no matter what their photos are like. Fine if you want to carry on but at least you won’t be disappointed!

Clearly a scam, sorry. They are probably getting pictures from an amateur porn site so they look genuine.

I wouldn't worry too much OP. It is normal on these kinds of sites. It's probably just someone covering their tracks.
But like other PP have said do as much due diligence as you can and don't send photo's.