Sex club etiquette

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Hi, It’s my first time going to a sex club and I’m looking for a bit of advice please.
Is there anything me and my partner need to be aware of before hand with regards to etiquette?
For example is kissing each other or a bit of groping/hugging okay outside of the sex room?
Is it okay to do this in the play room whilst watching others? Or in the general bar area?

Thanks!

Hi there! Exciting times- I hope you have a great night.

Check the etiquette rules on the website for the club you're going to, because there may be different rules for different playrooms. The main rule is consent and not to approach others who are playing or to touch anyone without their consent. It's fine to kiss and cuddle in the bar area. Groping might not be as acceptable though. It's usually fine to do that while watching others though. If it's your first time, usually someone will go through all of that with you when you arrive so just ask them any questions you have.
Enjoy!!
xxx

My best advice would be to arrange a get out safe word if you are not feeling comfortable and want to go. EG "I really fancy a cider" especially if you do not usually drink cider. Sometimes you just need a quick escape if things are not going as expected. Do not feel bullied or pressurised into doing anything you are not comfy with, people will instantly come right up and ask for sex, it is hard when you do not want to offend them by saying no, you will get lots of offers being fresh newbies, stay together at all times to insure your safety, get your own drinks and keep an eye on them!. I have been to some good ones where rules are strictly adhered to, but many many bad ones, usually if there is a higher ratio of guys to girls, it gets very competitive, there is always some drama where one half of the couple has been talked into attending and then there is a major scene emotions running high. What you do with each other is fine, where ever you want, do not touch anyone else without consent first, and likewise if someone starts groping you without asking first, tell them a firm NO! because they WILL try their luck. Have fun but be extra savvy around health and safety, eg no shared toys, condoms, general hygiene.

I would also be having a very in depth convo about what you find acceptable from your partner. It is easy to get carried away and slip up, you might find what seemed fun at first turns sour if you don't have rules. My thing was no kissing on the lips. Might seem strange but that for me crossed a boundary.

I’ve been to lots of swinger clubs both here and abroad. When I’m with my FWB we have a little code, if we are talking to people to let each other know we are interested in them or not.

A yes is a gentle tickle in the others palm. A no is more a nip. Like rock paper scissors. A nip trumps a tickle. If we like them I would say something like, “we are going to find a room now if you want to join us”. If we are not interested I would say, “it’s been lovely talking but we are just going for a little wonder round”.

Some clubs are dress down on entry. This can be a bit daunting for a new couple. Also a night when single men are permitted can also be off putting for newbies, unless of course that’s what you are interested in.

Any further questions DM me.

That sounds really awful!!

Assuming you mean a swing club (there's a difference).

Check the website, usually they have dress code but there's not much more than that, no means no, and watch your intoxication level are the biggest rules. Intoxication is obviously very important

You are not expected to do or not do anything. Any club that has those rules you need to avoid - I knew one club that had some horrible expectations on people.

As others said, make sure you are in contact with your buddy at all times, don't go in different directions (ie if one of you is with someone, the other should be in hearing distance), develop a code before you go, allow that code to expand - I never expected I'd end up with rules for when I'm at the bottom of a pile, but that's happened a few times. Don't rush into doing anything until you are sure you're both happy.

Keep your voice down in areas where people are playing, and don't make comments about anything you wouldn't want to hear yourself.

Are they really so unsafe that a woman needs to be with a man at all times?! I’m quite shocked reading all these replies!!

just make sure that you and your partner are on the same page! You both need to agree some ground rules as to what you can and can’t do ie is your other half happy for you to have some play with a single guy? Are you happy for him to play as a single? Do you only want to play with similar couples as a foursome? Also, don’t go expecting to have lots of fun because like most events, some nights are better than others. Bottom
line, if you don’t want to participate then just say no, no one will be offended! Be safe and enjoy yoirselves!

Enjoy, please come back and tell us how it goes.
I'm genuinely curious now.
Best of luck, hope you enjoy and have fun.

Not unsafe exactly but I've been to a club once which was a single men allowed night and never again. They are desperate and pathetic to be honest. I never felt unsafe but I did feel annoyed, intruded upon and completely turned off.

Not at all. I've been to clubs by myself before and felt perfectly safe. You do need to be vocal though, as some guys can be full on, although that depends on the club, some clubs are a lot better than others at policing their clientele.

Never knew these places existed! How do you find your local one