When did sex become less often

[Matthewfrommanc]

As the title suggests,
Sex used to be great and often but now it’s every 3 months at best. No significant changes in our lives just my partner saying she isn’t in the mood.
sex was always great with a mix of loving passionate love making aswell as more exciting risky sex all over the house and different positions and toys.
we both get a fair amount of attention when we go out and going elsewhere isn’t an option but now sex is less frequent the eye tends to wonder a little bit.

When did sex become less often

Babies.

Is that because you were more tired and less spare time after or for other reasons?

We were constantly on the go, trying to keep the little human beings alive. And they didn’t always go to sleep easily, so by the time my own bedtime rolled around, all I wanted to do was collapse, safe in the knowledge that I would have my own personalised wake-up call at 5am (or earlier).

Couldn’t really pinpoint, it just slowly did, DW just isn’t bothered anymore and won’t enter into any discussion about it

Big drop after babies, then, when he started having ED issues at about age 52 it fell off a cliff.

Mine was a sudden drop. Husband lost interest in September 2009. I remember it that well. It went from almost every night to nothing.

Did it ever change again or is it pretty non existent still?

I think it was during Covid/lockdown. I began to lose my sexdrive. I'm not sure why. No specific reason. No drop in testosterone etc. Sex almost dried up completely. My partner strayed onto dating sites to chat to men etc at the time to gets her sexual kicks. Didn't help matters much.

Things are a little better these days though.

Probably because she’s no longer attracted to you, she doesn’t desire you, she has other more important priorities and she takes the marriage for granted. The sex will stop all together within a few years.

I don’t know about stopping altogether! 😂

As I said upthread, we had a dip whilst the DC were young, but I still fancy the pants off of my DH and it’s usually me who initiates.

@Matthewfrommanc have you tried to have a conversation with your wife? Do you share children together? I can’t really advise as I am in a five year relationship and the sex is regular - my children are teens and I get 50% of week to myself due to being divorced. I also fancy the pants off my partner but I am not sure if we are still in the honeymoon phase.
It’s positive that when you have sex it’s enjoyable and passionate but really you want that every week or a couple of times a week right?

Only time ours dipped abit was after babies,but not for long.We have been together 41 years and have never gone longer than a week without sex .When the kids all left home sex went through the roof and has been fantastic ever since.You need to talk to your partner about this .When I read people’s problems on here it is all new to me ,so I guess me and my husband are just really lucky and still fancy each other .

I still fancy my DH but we have three children - 11, 4 and 1. I also work full time condensed to four days so I’m absolutely exhausted! It’s not that I don’t want to keep the intimacy in our relationship but I feel like my body isn’t my own as I’m still BFing our youngest and the 4 and 1yos both like to clamber all over me.