G spot orgasms

[Wonderwhyy]

So I posted before about never having an internal orgasm I've only ever managed orgasms through clit play and how i want to try and find my G spot so after recommendations on here to buy a G spot vibrator I did so.

I've tried twice so far and I'm not getting anywhere actually I don't think it feels nice at all and it actually leaves me sore afterwards.. I bought the least intimating one I could see it's not that big smaller than my husbands penis.
What am I doing wrong? I've never used a dildo or anything before so I don't know if I'm just not used to it but I just don't like the feeling of the thing up there even the vibration were doing nothing for me.

I guess it is different for different women, some it works powerfully for others it doesn't. Sometimes it is easy to find the perfect spot, other times it can be tricky to find. Have you asked you partner to help stimulate you on your g spot? Have you tried yourself just with fingers? sometimes the vibration from toys can be desensitizing. Natural softer touch might be more effective.

I am lucky that I can come internally, but I've never done it on my own or with a toy. For me it's something that I have to be with a man to do it, and (TMI sorry!) he has to be quite rough with me 😳 and 'take me there' if you see what I mean. Definitely not all men did it for me, probably like 10% or so (DH does!!).

Same for me. I can only come internally with my husband's fingers or through intercourse. I never use a dildo, prefer to use a clit vibrator to masturbate. I'm not sure why that is, I think it's partly about relinquishing control to him and letting him take over.

I’ve always found when partners have arched their lower back (pillow underneath or even a hand) has helped achieve an internal orgasm with sex. Obviously it’s different from person to person and I guess you have to be fully relaxed. If you’re thinking about it during sex this might not help as it’s in your mind.
If you’ve mentioned it to your partner hopefully he will do some research and let him take the lead.
I find with my wife when we have sex different motions or from different angles have different effects on her. If going from a lower position position going upwards certainly gets her to that point where as if I’m going from a higher position down doesn’t as much.

Yes I'm glad I'm not the only one! In my head, vaginal orgasms = something a man gives me and it's absolutely amazing, and makes me feel very connected to him.

Oh and by the way I don't count my lovers in the hundreds so when I said 10% I was more referring to 10% of the shags I've had rather than 10% of the men I've been with!! Just thought I'd clarify that to you strangers online not that any of you know me irl anyway 🤣

@Wonderwhyy

Have you read any books to get you there there are a few on audible that were good . Plus have a look at Keneth Play he is a G spot guru.

Also OMGYES has a G-spot section

Also there has been some research done about mentally focussing on the sensations. And how really focussing helps. Internal O come from cervical fornices which are caused by stimulation of the vagus nerve. Different system to the clit. I had internal orgasms - form very very early on. Only slept with my husband anyway because he could literally make me multiple. O every time and I think I knew I was on to a winner from the get go. But what I will say is I was absolutely determined to enjoy it and really put my head in it which helped I think. Plus he was a real sweetheart and fancied me massive so I felt super comfy and relaxed with him. He is also a decent size and thick and can last for ages. Honestly I need 20 mins really it less if ive had a clit orgasm. Angles are massively important too for hitting the right spot! Aim for the ASpot 🤩 I think I find it easy now as I know I can and I look forward to it so it all helps. Also pelvic floor and kegels are importanr!

To clarify gspot is a thing but in climax for me is deeper. Basically 3 pathways - g spot and clit (pudendal nerve) - anterior and posterior formices (either side of cervix) vagus nerve.

I think you’re definitely on the right track with the Vegus nerve. I believe it’s very much linked to great sex as you describe along with stimulation of other pressure points including vocalising