Previous tinder hook up on school run

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Really curious to know if someone else has experienced this… sort of just for fun as it does add a bit of frisson to my day, BUT I’ve just figured out that the guy that has seemed so familiar that lives a few streets over is in fact an ex tinder hook up. Just a one night thing about ten years ago (so two years before I met my partner/father of my kids!) but I now have to see him pretty much every time I do the school run. I live in London so the chances of us living streets away blows my mind. He’s definitely clocked me too but I feel so awkward I don’t really know how I should act when I have to walk past him ok the street. So far I’ve just pretended to be engrossed in whatever I can (talking to kids/other parents/phone/blowing my nose etc etc). Luckily our kids are slightly different ages so not in the same years but should I just smile at him with a knowing look and get the awkwardness out of the way? Avoid eye contact for the rest of my life living in this area? Hope that we don’t get introduced by mutual friends/parents (very small school with small catchment and we all know each other so seems inevitable). I’d love to tell my partner and share the awkwardness of the whole thing but I actually think it’s more respectful to him to not tell him as I know that however funny he finds it initially he’ll just get as awkward as me if we have to last each other on the street. Has anyone else had this? Do you think he might have told his partner? Who I’m convinced tries to ignore me on the street but I suspect I am just being paranoid. Ahhh. Probably the wrong chat forum!

You should tell your partner. If he finds out later, or worse befriends him, it’ll be much worse!

but do you think he’d ever share the information or will be both just pretend it never happened? I can’t see them befriending each other, they are very different and at most it would be pleasantries in a wider group setting. Wasn’t expecting anyone to suggest this tbh!

I doubt they’d ever share the info, tho if it is a small school it’s likely they’ll get talking at sometime. Do parents not get dragged into helping out at school fun days / trips etc regularly. There’s a dad band at our school too, and dad’s WhatsApp groups to try and get them engaged as nearly always mums who turn up to the class coffee mornings!

I had a vaguely similar situation. Why be awkward? Just smile and say hello (maybe that’s not done in London though?!) that’s how I dealt with it. Bit of occasional small talk. Neither of us ever mentioned to anyone- especially not our partners!!!

It did make me smile that we would probably both be reminiscing about things sometimes after we’d bumped into each other. Although neither of us ever mentioned it.

I think this is what I need to hear! It’s Just so much time had passed before I clicked who he was ( I was like ‘hmm that’s one hot dad, totally my type 😂) that I feel like I’ve made it awkward for the last year and now I feel weird sticking head up and saying ‘hiya!’. I do hope he has happy memories, I think it was a good night and morning… he did semi ghost me which is a bit awkward but at least I wasn’t totally desperate and chase him like I had with other guys around that time. I always thought he was a tiny bit of a prick but still fancied him. Thanks for reassuring me that not telling partners is probably the best thing!

I'd ignore him because it was so long ago. If you find yourself having communication over school related stuff, which is probably unlikely if your kids aren't in the same year, I'd just keep the hookup out of it, it's irrelevant. I'd maybe tell my husband if I found myself in this situation because we're open about that sort of stuff but I wouldn't be making a big deal of it or going into detail.

Hmm, I was single for a while and did some online dating, and lots of online dating ‘chats’.
A few months back I took my DD to her hospital clinic appointment and there were 3 mums and 1 nurse who I had chatted with, I’d had a coffee date with one of the mums - who I remembered instantly, it was funny seeing her reaction when she realised who I was.
My tuppence-worth - he probably remembers you, say hi if you want, Just don’t overthink it!

I’ve had an occasion where someone I slept with joined the company I worked for. The worst part was, I had to then be involved in training her which was very awkward. We ended up sleeping together on a few work nights out but she didn’t stay at the company very long.