Is this normal or is it coming to and end?

[confusedmomma91]

I’m a 32 year old woman with 4 kids, 13,12, 4 & 1.5 years old.

My husband and I have been together 6 years married for 3. We had the usual honeymoon period together couldn’t get enough of each other, we then went through a bad patch he was being very selfish not thinking about me or the kids, partying a lot, he also had depression due to loss. We managed to come out the other side and I fell pregnant with my last child. Fast forward to now he has put a lot of effort into himself and our relationship. But here’s the thing, I just don’t want sex anymore, I dread the thought of it happening I get really anxious I don’t want it with anyone because I started to think is it him, but I just don’t fancy it.

he obviously wants it, I’ve said numerous times how I feel but because I have no real reason, he can’t get his head around it. I find myself forcing it and feeling quite sad after. It feels like it’s always on his mind, always being crude always groping me (as partners do) I’m just not feeling it.

he can get really mardy and thinks he’s doing something wrong which I’ve assured him it’s me and I’m unsure myself

I really don’t know what to do. Is this the end? Have other people got over this? I do love him and I’d love to do life together forever, just right now I’m not feeling it, will I ever ..

Your DH will almost certainly get a lot of stick from other posters, and to a certain degree so he should.

however, he deserves a wife that wants to be intimate with him and deserves a sex life at what I presume is a relatively young age.

you deserve to choose whether or not you want sex and you shouldn’t be having sex just to please your DH . It doesn’t sound like your DH is pressuring you but I’m sure some will say he will.

Unless you can find a compromise, that works for both of you, it is unlikely your marriage will continue for much longer.

You say you have no real reason not to want it. But (excluding his previous bad behaviour which I’m not clear if you’ve fully forgiven deep down) you have 4 young kids including a 1.5 year old. That would be a very good passion killer for me 😂. In the meantime (if you have a spare minute?!) maybe get some counselling to work through exactly how you feel?

Also him ‘always groping you’ is totally unacceptable. And so is his pressuring you for sex. I’d be very clear with him about that