Sex less marriages

[Turkeypie]

I was in a sex life marriage, not my choice, I thought he had zero sex drive (I was young and naive) turns out he was having an affair for years.

Recently talking to group of female friends, 2 of them admitted they were in sexless marriage (their choice, not husbands). No sex in 10 years, in one of their situation.

I appreciate it's not my business but I feel I want to warn/share my experience. Do men really last that long without looking elsewhere?

@Turkeypie Some maybe, most realistically not. They are probably in denial that their behaviour is normal. I think as a rule (menopause excepted) sex is a sign of the relationship health. No aex and there is a poor relationship. If you are happy and feel loved it is natural to want to share that intimacy. If one party has issues with themselves or the partner then it stops

I did. I was in a sexless, passionless, intamcyless marriage for 10 years before I'd had enough, and we split.

We did eventually talk about it, but it was too little too late.

I went through a few frustrating sexless periods in my marriage but the other parts of my marriage were good and the upset cheating or leaving would cause my family, especially DC, just were not worth it. I’ve seen at first hand how this affects peoples’ lives.

I got to the point in my late 40s where it didn’t bother me anymore. We had a very happy marriage otherwise until DW died last year from cancer.

In my experience, yes. I was with my DH for 13 years and it was always great. Never had any impression he was looking elsewhere and vice versa. Sadly he passed away 3 years ago.

It’s all about the quality of the man early on into a relationship. Chances are if there are red flags early on, then those are only going to get worse the longer you’re with them. Imo people don’t fully change when they get into a relationship, if they are an a-hole from the start, then they will be an a-hole throughout, no matter how people think they can fix him/her