Does tongue size matter

[whynotthisname]

OK so first the confession... I am a male.

I have never been good at oral sex but there again until a month ago, I have been tongue-tied. Then I got my tongue frenulum partially snipped.
As a result, I can now extend my tongue slightly beyond my lips and can also point it slightly.
I am enjoying oral sex but feel it could be better if I had a more radical operation on my tongue (the first one was a very small operation without any anesthesia)

I am considering pursuing a bigger operation to free my tongue further.

So how much does tongue (or at least how far you can push it out) make a difference?

Personally, none. I prefer gentle sucking.

It’s as much to do with what you do with your lips and perhaps the tip of your tongue.

I think it really depends on the woman. Like the above poster, personally I prefer more lip action / gentle sucking. There can definitely be too much tongue!

So, to answer your question, I think it will vary depending on what the recipient likes, but certainly to many women it wouldn't improve much to have more tongue. Aside from that, it's an extreme reason to have more invasive surgery! Unless it would have other benefits too (speech maybe, I'm not sure?) You sound like a very attentive partner, I'm sure whoever is receiving from you will be plenty satisfied!

I would say, it really doesn’t matter! As stated above, it’s really about the tip of the tongue. You don’t need an extended tongue for using it for oral sex, unless you’re considering penetration with it which to be honest, for me, does literally nothing and I almost don’t like it.

Thank you.
This is most useful.
Until I had the operation I literally couldn't point my tongue (it pulled in at the tip and formed a divit.. Like the top of a heart shape) nor indeed could I extend it beyond my lips.
Now I get a distinct, but rounded point.
I wondered if I had a slightly bigger operation if I would get a finer point and greater extension!! Plus more to the point.... Would it be beneficial?

This has really cheered me up as I have been feeling a bit disappointed that the change has not been as great as I hoped.... I watch in envy as some folks can touch their noses.

When I was researching whether to get my baby's tt snipped one of the things they mentioned for future consideration was oral sex!

If I was you I'd go for the full snip personally!

@whynotthisname

You are a fucking legend . Spend your whole life with a fucked up tongue and the only reason you want to get it fixed is to eat pussy better.

amazing xx

i think I love you love ❤️

Seriously?? My DS 5 had his snipped at about 2 weeks old and this was certainly never mentioned! What was the research?

@whynotthisname I echo other PP for me the tip of the tongue and lips are all i need to enjoy recieving oral. If you feel you're not "good" at it then speak to your partner and get her to guide you with how she likes it and what spots to hit, just remember to ask each new partner (if applicable) as different women will enjoy it in different ways. To me my partner having an honest and open conversation about how best he can make sure I enjoy myself is the biggest turn on

I made the decision to pay for it to be cut privately at about 3 months as I think didn't qualify on NHS. It wasn't an easy decision so I did loads of googling on it and loads was mentioned - from licking ice lollies to speech issues to oral sex.

Wow I'm shocked tbh, I don't know why, I guess because my DS was a tiny baby and that is so far into the future. He qualified NHS so it was medical staff who advised us and they only mentioned speech and eating (unless I was supposed to realise they meant all types of eating 🫣) anyway thank you for replying I'll stop derailing the thread lol

Hello Zero
When you say " for me the tip of the tongue and lips are all I need to enjoy receiving oral" you sort of have made my point... Until I had the initial operation I couldn't extend my tongue at all beyond my lips.
If you were to imagine oral sex with somebody who effectively had no tongue then you would be nearer the mark.
I am fortunately blessed in other areas and this has been both a blessing and also the shield that I have hidden behind .... until I hit the buffers and was advised that oral sex for this lady was more important.

My train hit the buffers and I felt I needed to sort it out. Having some distinct improvement I am now seeking advice about how far I need to take this.

Either way, thank you for your reflection.

I have a tongue tie and use my tongue for male and females and no one has only ever moaned in pleasure and are very happy with the result. Use your head movements and other things like slight sucking or similar and the length doesn’t come into it.

Thanks for the advice.

I’m male with a the exact same issue. Honestly makes no difference for oral, just means you need to get closer, use more pressure and gentle sucking. Doing it with genuine enthusiasm, responding to her reactions and listening to what she likes will make the real difference.

Not every woman enjoys reverse oral. It is not a given. Contrary to what most men believe!

Sorry @Augustus40

What do you mean by reverse oral?
oral from behind or reciprocal oral? Or something else?

Pussy licking!

Gotcha!

Suction, pressure and your mouth and lips are far more important than tongue size. Enthusiasm, genuine enjoyment, patience and a willingness to learn what works for a new partner will make you a far better lover than having a tongue like a giraffe 🦒 😉

My exh almost never did oral and when he did it was very quick and unsatisfactory as he said it hurt.
He doesn’t ever lick his fingers when eating (eg salty chips, or donuts, or chips, etc, when most people would.)
His kissing was ok but never very deep.
I thought nothing of it until one day my kids and I were comparing tongues (like you do with primary school kids!) and we could all nearly touch our noses, but ex could barely get his past his lips and said it hurt to do that. I looked at his tongue and realised it was tied quite extensively. He refused point blank to get medical advice as he didnt want an op because it would hurt. I tried to explain how much I love oral but he was adamant. That was 15 yrs ago and we’re divorced now. And I’m seeing a guy who has an amazing mouth and tongue (and cares!!)
Long story short, yes it is actually painful for some people to stick their tongue out enough to do oral, and if you’re up for an op then I would say yes please!

[and deffo get your baby’s tongue done if you have one - it’s such a quick procedure when they’re tiny and they’ll remember nothing and reap so many benefits in life.]

Sorry, but don’t agree on the tongue issue. Someone skilled can achieve magic with their lips alone.

OK, Folks, thanks for your input.

Well, today I had the slightly bigger operation after all.
I feel a bit shit and there will be no tongue work for a week or two but we shall see!!!

Good choice. Hope you feel better soon

@whynotthisname

I very much hope that it improves things for you and that your oral skills go to the next level.

Sending a virtual lollipop for being a good boy x